Reyaj
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I guess I am human...jophil28 said:
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
She needs space...where did it go wrong??
- Thread starter Sandow
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Sandow, kudos to you for taking it. Most guys just run and/or get butthurt when told of their mistakes and ways to improve. Glad to see you're still around.
And since I've already said my piece earlier, I'll bow out.
Remember kids, experience and learn but also move on. Don't over-analyze things to death!
And since I've already said my piece earlier, I'll bow out.
Remember kids, experience and learn but also move on. Don't over-analyze things to death!
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jophil28 said:
Although both your criticisms are correct, I am strongly convinced that this IS the right way to go, nevertheless. In order to achieve balance in anything, one goes through a constant process of alternating between two opposites, learning to move less far along the spectrum (and straying closer to the middle) with each alternation. Someone learning to walk a tightrope will feel his weight shifting to the right and then clumsily shift it all the way to the left, in order not to fall off. But shifting it all the way to the left, he almost falls off again, so he shifts it to the right again but less far than the last time. And so forth and so forth... Through training, he learns to move less far to each side at the moment of alternating, until finally, he finds a perfect balance in the middle, where his body moves right nor left but just stays in balance.Jamo said:
Same thing goes for any 'skill' a person wants to master, whether it is a physical or mental skill. Guys who have a tendency to supplicate and let women control them, will have to shift to the other extreme (treat them like wh0res and not giving a damn about them) and back again etc. Through constantly shifting between the two, he'll gradually move away from the extremes in attitude and behaviour (total supplication vs. total disrespect) and starts getting closer to the middle ground between the two with each shift.
Think of an old fashioned balance scale at the butcher's shop, with two big pieces of meat on each side. The scale tips to one side, so you cut off some meat there. Now it tips to the other side so you cut off some meat there etc. etc. You start off with cutting big pieces from the meat but as the scale is getting more balanced and you try to fine-tune it towards perfect balance, you'll start to cut off ever smaller pieces. It's a constant process where the scale shifts from one side to the other, back and forth, the difference becoming smaller with each shift.
At the start, when one side greatly tips over compared to the other, it is not possible to cut off exactly the right amount of meat on that side in one attempt. You have to alternate between the two sides before reaching the middle ground.
Just like that, I do not believe an 'AFC'/'nice guy'/'white knight' can make some sort of direct step towards being a DJ. He'll have to go AT LEAST THROUGH ONE phase of being a total jerk/not giving a damn about women, before he can reach the middle ground and be a DJ.
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Ever since I was able to achieve this BALANCE, my life's being great. To be successful (not only with women but also at Life), you have to have both Nice Guy and Bad Boy living inside you.
Like Batman.
Ever since I was able to achieve this BALANCE, my life's being great. To be successful (not only with women but also at Life), you have to have both Nice Guy and Bad Boy living inside you.
Like Batman.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
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Hahaha, I just totally sh!t my pants when I read that. I know exactly what you're talking about! When you've always been a nice guy, there's such new joy to be found in being an azzhole, it's like a whole new world opens up to youSandow said:
I'm totally in that phase right now. All women are evil and should only be approached with a 'kill or be killed' attitude, lol. Only once I've learned how to dominate them and how to defend myself effortlessly against their treacherous ways, will I be nice to them........once in a while, that is
Keep up the good work!
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I thought the same thing onreading post 1vatoloco said:
I'll never know the answer to that. Everyone here forbids me from contacting her. But if you guys wanna know more, I can always call her and find out, haha. I know I'll get bashed for it, but at least we'll know.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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From Blade Runner:
"The light that burns twice as bright, burns half as long. And you have burned so very, very brightly.."
"The light that burns twice as bright, burns half as long. And you have burned so very, very brightly.."
Sandow, remember that No Contact is for you, not for the chick. It s a way for you to get over her, stop thinking of her and moving on with your life. Within 2 months after I broke up with my last LTR, I had already banged 5 chicks. Did the thought of my ex still pop in my head once in a while? sure, but never to the point where I would be tempted to respond to her (she tried to contact me an insane amount of times).
Think of no contact as being on probation: if you fail one single drug/alcohol test you're going to jail, there is simply no middle ground. It's not "limited contact" or "minimal contact". It s none at all.
Think of no contact as being on probation: if you fail one single drug/alcohol test you're going to jail, there is simply no middle ground. It's not "limited contact" or "minimal contact". It s none at all.
This quote is absolute gold, sums up my evolution over the last 4 years...Die Hard said:
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I stopped reading this thread on page one where it said "Calling and Texting all the time"
Red flags galore there, honestly stay away from that rubbish, either your not busy enough with your own life or she has no life and needs to cling onto you.
But anyway in the end it's not worth thinking about or stressing about much more interesting things to worry about then some relationship that went sour.
Red flags galore there, honestly stay away from that rubbish, either your not busy enough with your own life or she has no life and needs to cling onto you.
But anyway in the end it's not worth thinking about or stressing about much more interesting things to worry about then some relationship that went sour.
Something like this happened to me. This girl was the hottest I ever banged. I am a chubby fellow so they don't come that often. Took her to concerts, dinners, comedy clubs. Kept asking if I was sleeping with anyone and I would tell her no.
So we started having arguments. She had me waiting for a few hours while she got ready and I got angry and checked her. We let it slide and had a blast at the concert. Then I let her go with her girls to the club while I hung out with my boys...she said she will call me after the club so I can pick her up and take her back to my place. When I called her phone was off. She texted 630 in the morning saying she just go home...saying her and her girls went to the after hours spot and her phone died. It just seemed shady so i texted and told her it wasnt workign for me. She got defensive and stuff and when I called she agreed we should break up cos all we do is argue (because she does stuff like what i said above).
Still fresh for me...been a week..but I am going with no contact...just like u.
So we started having arguments. She had me waiting for a few hours while she got ready and I got angry and checked her. We let it slide and had a blast at the concert. Then I let her go with her girls to the club while I hung out with my boys...she said she will call me after the club so I can pick her up and take her back to my place. When I called her phone was off. She texted 630 in the morning saying she just go home...saying her and her girls went to the after hours spot and her phone died. It just seemed shady so i texted and told her it wasnt workign for me. She got defensive and stuff and when I called she agreed we should break up cos all we do is argue (because she does stuff like what i said above).
Still fresh for me...been a week..but I am going with no contact...just like u.
jophil28
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Delly2000 said:
The beginning of the arguments is the the beginning of the 'power struggle' phase.
The honeymoon is starting to lose its dreamy quality for at least one of the parties.
If that is her, she often starts to become more demanding, more edgy and less giving and compliant. Sex can become a bargaining chip and a tool in her quest for control.
The beginning of the end with that particular kind of woman .
jophil28 said:
Thanks for the insight Jo. It really does say alot. Not sure where I went wrong. She sent a text last night asking for me to pick her up. I didnt reply. Then she sent one this morning..i didnt reply. Its hard because I like her but she just messes up. I just want things to be smooth like before. And I want respect. If she doesnt think I am right for her...we should just go our seperate ways so she can find someone she really likes. I wont post anymore as this isn't my thread. But thanks again.