"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So basically theres this girl in my english class who i think likes me. Ive known her for about a year, but havent gotten close enough to her to start DJing her til about a few weeks ago. Shes been really responsive to everything. She sits behind me in class, and we play footsy every day (which she initiates btw). I always make sexual euphamisms hinting that she wants to have sex with me. She laughs, and then when she returns this with another sexual euphamism, and when she does i call her a perv (jokingly). There isn't much kino, but sometimes for the heck of it i put my arm around her waist and or w/e, and each time shes returned it with some other form of kino. She even grabbed my ass once :D . The thing is, she might have a bf. i was looking on her nex a few days ago, and it says shes in a long term relationship. But in the one year of knowing her, i've never heard her speak of a bf. So basically

1) Do you think she likes me?
2) Should i ask her out and try and get her alone with me, even tho her nex profile says she has a bf?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bro, you've been here for a while, I'm sure you know the answer to this question and are just looking for reassurance.

So yeah, ask her out, what's the worst that could happen, she says she has a bf?
 

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If you understood girls( I say girls because to us they're pretty immature) then you'd remember that girls are like monkeys.

Like monkeys, you say? Howw????

They don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on the next.

It's their nature as females. They are insecure and are afraid that if they dump their bf and you never approach them that they will be left out in the rain. As a girl in a society where girls are conditioned to Wait for the guy to come along and "rescue" them from loneliness, they don't know how long they will have to wait before another guy comes for them.

Therefore, it is in her best interest to stay with her boyfriend until you two have some sort of relationship.

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Personal opinion from another HSer: dude, you're in the door. Ask her out, that's all there is left. If she hasn't mentioned a bf, don't worry about it, she probably just doesn't want you to know, girls like to take care of that stuff on their own. It's your job, now that you're firmly in the door, to now turn around, close it, and lock it. Oh, and then turn the lights off.

good luck
 

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saber101 said:
So basically theres this girl in my english class who i think likes me. Ive known her for about a year, but havent gotten close enough to her to start DJing her til about a few weeks ago. Shes been really responsive to everything. She sits behind me in class, and we play footsy every day (which she initiates btw). I always make sexual euphamisms hinting that she wants to have sex with me. She laughs, and then when she returns this with another sexual euphamism, and when she does i call her a perv (jokingly). There isn't much kino, but sometimes for the heck of it i put my arm around her waist and or w/e, and each time shes returned it with some other form of kino. She even grabbed my ass once :D . The thing is, she might have a bf. i was looking on her nex a few days ago, and it says shes in a long term relationship. But in the one year of knowing her, i've never heard her speak of a bf. So basically

1) Do you think she likes me?
2) Should i ask her out and try and get her alone with me, even tho her nex profile says she has a bf?
um on nex every girl i know does that. they put like "Body Builder" in the size... and Married in the Relationship and put 4'0 in height...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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