Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Took the words right out of my mouth..Berlex said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Many, many people avoid eye contact fearing rejection. I used to never maintain eye contact with people until I learned the potency and worthwhileness of maintaining eye contact. I remember being a little kid with a crush on some girl. I'd look at her, she'd look at me, and I'd look away. It's natural for both guys and girls. In poker, that's a tell. Use it.dynamicallyidle said:
Ah yes,I remember those days. It's so empowering knowing that you can hold eye contact with someone and not be afraid. After I lock eye contact give them the smirk as to say "like you have a chance",always works.Demon said:
I still can't believe a girl this hot is afraid of being rejected by ME...and I'm not trying to brag or toot my own horn. If anything, I should be afraid of being rejected by her!Ripper said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hey, I've got an idea!!! TURN AROUND!!!dynamicallyidle said:
Yes it's happened plenty of times back when I didn't know what it meant.dynamicallyidle said: