You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Took the words right out of my mouth..Berlex said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Many, many people avoid eye contact fearing rejection. I used to never maintain eye contact with people until I learned the potency and worthwhileness of maintaining eye contact. I remember being a little kid with a crush on some girl. I'd look at her, she'd look at me, and I'd look away. It's natural for both guys and girls. In poker, that's a tell. Use it.dynamicallyidle said:
Ah yes,I remember those days. It's so empowering knowing that you can hold eye contact with someone and not be afraid. After I lock eye contact give them the smirk as to say "like you have a chance",always works.Demon said:
I still can't believe a girl this hot is afraid of being rejected by ME...and I'm not trying to brag or toot my own horn. If anything, I should be afraid of being rejected by her!Ripper said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hey, I've got an idea!!! TURN AROUND!!!dynamicallyidle said:
Yes it's happened plenty of times back when I didn't know what it meant.dynamicallyidle said: