I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Took the words right out of my mouth..Berlex said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Many, many people avoid eye contact fearing rejection. I used to never maintain eye contact with people until I learned the potency and worthwhileness of maintaining eye contact. I remember being a little kid with a crush on some girl. I'd look at her, she'd look at me, and I'd look away. It's natural for both guys and girls. In poker, that's a tell. Use it.dynamicallyidle said:
Ah yes,I remember those days. It's so empowering knowing that you can hold eye contact with someone and not be afraid. After I lock eye contact give them the smirk as to say "like you have a chance",always works.Demon said:
I still can't believe a girl this hot is afraid of being rejected by ME...and I'm not trying to brag or toot my own horn. If anything, I should be afraid of being rejected by her!Ripper said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Hey, I've got an idea!!! TURN AROUND!!!dynamicallyidle said:
Yes it's happened plenty of times back when I didn't know what it meant.dynamicallyidle said: