"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She LJBFs me, I cut her off. Good idea?

The Forms

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So i've known this girl for a little over a year now. In that time we've hooked up plenty of times. We used to live a couple hours away from each other, so we didn't see each other much. Now we live in the same town. She got a boyfriend (but he's about to get dumped). We aren't going to date because I'm moving in 2 months, so it'd be pointless.

Everytime we hang out I end up trying to hook up with her because she turns me on, so I told her I can't hang out with her anymore if I'm not getting any.

She tries to LJBF me. She says I can call her when I'm ready to be just friends with her.

Needless to say, I haven't called her.

What are ya'lls thoughts on this one? I figure I'll just freeze her out. If she wants to be friends there's going to be benefits, as far as I'm concerned. Or we can just quit being friends. Because its frustrating not getting any from her when I'm used to it. I figure if the relationship isn't going to be what I want it to be, who's she to guilt me into making it the relationship SHE wants?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Aaron B

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Why are you focused on her?

She either comes along with your program, or she doesn't. Obviously, she has chosen not to follow your plans.

You should have several prospects and when your first choice flakes you go to the next one on the list.

Figure out what you want and go get it.
 

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Stop talking to her like you said you were.... Since you been fvcking her before, she might miss not having it and call you back.
 

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Yep you are doing the right thing - just move on and she'll be in touch if she wants more down the road.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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00Kevin

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The Forms said:
So i've known this girl for a little over a year now. In that time we've hooked up plenty of times. We used to live a couple hours away from each other, so we didn't see each other much. Now we live in the same town. She got a boyfriend (but he's about to get dumped). We aren't going to date because I'm moving in 2 months, so it'd be pointless.

Everytime we hang out I end up trying to hook up with her because she turns me on, so I told her I can't hang out with her anymore if I'm not getting any.

She tries to LJBF me. She says I can call her when I'm ready to be just friends with her.

Needless to say, I haven't called her.

What are ya'lls thoughts on this one? I figure I'll just freeze her out. If she wants to be friends there's going to be benefits, as far as I'm concerned. Or we can just quit being friends. Because its frustrating not getting any from her when I'm used to it. I figure if the relationship isn't going to be what I want it to be, who's she to guilt me into making it the relationship SHE wants?
Just date other girls and tell her about them if she calls. If you go out with her again make a move on her. Hit on her. Etc..

Otherwise next her.
 

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1. you have no respect for yourself
2. im not going to tell you #2. figure it out, thats what a man does
 

The Forms

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PleasureKing said:
1. you have no respect for yourself
2. im not going to tell you #2. figure it out, thats what a man does
Hahaha. I love how many *******s there are on this site. I'm amazed at the number of guys who post when they have nothing to say.

So I have no respect for myself, and I'm not a man? Fine. Your penis is HUGE. We're all immensely impressed by how cool you are. It takes a real man to mischaracterize people you know nothing about on the internet.
 

Kev07

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yeah, but seriously, if a girl LJBFs you, the ONLY smart choice you can do is to cut her off.

end of thread.

there needs to be a sticky that explains this, because even though it IS possible to turn LJBF into something more, it takes way too much work, and you won't feel the achievement at the end, thinking "wow i did all that for this...?"

<--- personal experience

also once you cut off the girl, you'll realize how pointless it was the whole time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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dynamicallyidle

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What does the question "good idea?" mean? Do whatever you feel is respectful to yourself.

The Forms said:
So i've known this girl for a little over a year now. In that time we've hooked up plenty of times. We used to live a couple hours away from each other, so we didn't see each other much. Now we live in the same town. She got a boyfriend (but he's about to get dumped). We aren't going to date because I'm moving in 2 months, so it'd be pointless.

Everytime we hang out I end up trying to hook up with her because she turns me on, so I told her I can't hang out with her anymore if I'm not getting any.

She tries to LJBF me. She says I can call her when I'm ready to be just friends with her.

Needless to say, I haven't called her.

What are ya'lls thoughts on this one? I figure I'll just freeze her out. If she wants to be friends there's going to be benefits, as far as I'm concerned. Or we can just quit being friends. Because its frustrating not getting any from her when I'm used to it. I figure if the relationship isn't going to be what I want it to be, who's she to guilt me into making it the relationship SHE wants?
 
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