"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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She LJBFs me, I cut her off. Good idea?

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So i've known this girl for a little over a year now. In that time we've hooked up plenty of times. We used to live a couple hours away from each other, so we didn't see each other much. Now we live in the same town. She got a boyfriend (but he's about to get dumped). We aren't going to date because I'm moving in 2 months, so it'd be pointless.

Everytime we hang out I end up trying to hook up with her because she turns me on, so I told her I can't hang out with her anymore if I'm not getting any.

She tries to LJBF me. She says I can call her when I'm ready to be just friends with her.

Needless to say, I haven't called her.

What are ya'lls thoughts on this one? I figure I'll just freeze her out. If she wants to be friends there's going to be benefits, as far as I'm concerned. Or we can just quit being friends. Because its frustrating not getting any from her when I'm used to it. I figure if the relationship isn't going to be what I want it to be, who's she to guilt me into making it the relationship SHE wants?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Why are you focused on her?

She either comes along with your program, or she doesn't. Obviously, she has chosen not to follow your plans.

You should have several prospects and when your first choice flakes you go to the next one on the list.

Figure out what you want and go get it.
 
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Stop talking to her like you said you were.... Since you been fvcking her before, she might miss not having it and call you back.
 
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Yep you are doing the right thing - just move on and she'll be in touch if she wants more down the road.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Forms said:
So i've known this girl for a little over a year now. In that time we've hooked up plenty of times. We used to live a couple hours away from each other, so we didn't see each other much. Now we live in the same town. She got a boyfriend (but he's about to get dumped). We aren't going to date because I'm moving in 2 months, so it'd be pointless.

Everytime we hang out I end up trying to hook up with her because she turns me on, so I told her I can't hang out with her anymore if I'm not getting any.

She tries to LJBF me. She says I can call her when I'm ready to be just friends with her.

Needless to say, I haven't called her.

What are ya'lls thoughts on this one? I figure I'll just freeze her out. If she wants to be friends there's going to be benefits, as far as I'm concerned. Or we can just quit being friends. Because its frustrating not getting any from her when I'm used to it. I figure if the relationship isn't going to be what I want it to be, who's she to guilt me into making it the relationship SHE wants?
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Just date other girls and tell her about them if she calls. If you go out with her again make a move on her. Hit on her. Etc..

Otherwise next her.
 
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1. you have no respect for yourself
2. im not going to tell you #2. figure it out, thats what a man does
 
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PleasureKing said:
1. you have no respect for yourself
2. im not going to tell you #2. figure it out, thats what a man does
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Hahaha. I love how many *******s there are on this site. I'm amazed at the number of guys who post when they have nothing to say.

So I have no respect for myself, and I'm not a man? Fine. Your penis is HUGE. We're all immensely impressed by how cool you are. It takes a real man to mischaracterize people you know nothing about on the internet.
 
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yeah, but seriously, if a girl LJBFs you, the ONLY smart choice you can do is to cut her off.

end of thread.

there needs to be a sticky that explains this, because even though it IS possible to turn LJBF into something more, it takes way too much work, and you won't feel the achievement at the end, thinking "wow i did all that for this...?"

<--- personal experience

also once you cut off the girl, you'll realize how pointless it was the whole time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What does the question "good idea?" mean? Do whatever you feel is respectful to yourself.

The Forms said:
So i've known this girl for a little over a year now. In that time we've hooked up plenty of times. We used to live a couple hours away from each other, so we didn't see each other much. Now we live in the same town. She got a boyfriend (but he's about to get dumped). We aren't going to date because I'm moving in 2 months, so it'd be pointless.

Everytime we hang out I end up trying to hook up with her because she turns me on, so I told her I can't hang out with her anymore if I'm not getting any.

She tries to LJBF me. She says I can call her when I'm ready to be just friends with her.

Needless to say, I haven't called her.

What are ya'lls thoughts on this one? I figure I'll just freeze her out. If she wants to be friends there's going to be benefits, as far as I'm concerned. Or we can just quit being friends. Because its frustrating not getting any from her when I'm used to it. I figure if the relationship isn't going to be what I want it to be, who's she to guilt me into making it the relationship SHE wants?
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