"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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she likes me just as a "friend"

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went out with this girl i met randomly on the street and chatted and got her # and we went out for coffee and walk around and 2nd date had jpn food and kissed and made out in the park.
asked her to hang out with me again and she said busy, and hw and today she was out of town.
she said in her text shes likes me,but as a friend, since i asked her if she likes me since i like her.
should i still continue seeing her. i want to have sex with her since she so cute. hahah. how can i go bout doing this without being seen as a pervert just going after sex. how can i make a girl want me as a bf or lover than just a friend. i dont want to be just a friend.
should i continue seeing her and go out but at sametime be like a bf, touching , hold hands, kiss, ....etc

how can i do this. what if she goes out with me and lets me hold her hand and kiss but says we are friends-does this add up
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Seems like you just want to hit it. In that case invite her out again and make moves on her till she either lets you do her or makes it very clear you are only friend material (at which time you just bail).
 
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Filed under "Why not to ask if a girl likes you."

Judge nismo sees that you put pressure on this girl by asking that. Tell her you have enough friends (Be unfazed) and continue to kino, escalate, all that good sh*t. If she rejects your advances too often, then she's just not that into you. That's my verdict.

Case closed.
 
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You dont wanna be friends with her unless shes a really great human being. Learned it the hard way.

Go for it and see if you have got alive one...
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Drop her dude...unless you can handle being friends with her.
 
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#1 Never ask a girl if she likes you. You ask her if she likes you by making a move and kissing her. If you made out, chances are she doesn't hate your guts. After you asked that question? Her pvssy just dried the fvck up.

Don't ever IN YOUR LIFE say some sh!t like that again.
 
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Another great example of what daytime dating can do to you. Have no idea when these guys are gonna learn.
 
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