"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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she left the bar with her ex.. am I overreacting?

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Zarky said:
Great post, finally read something new here. Hamsters running best in silence, orbit testing, and reaching out. Three concepts I've never heard of before. Will definitely familiarize myself with those theories, especially orbit testing, which seems to happen all the time. Thanks for the post.

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Sh*t, could I have some links, if I google "orbit testing" I get a bunch of f*cking satellite web sites LOL
The word "Orbit" is very often used in the german Pick Up Scene, didnt know thats unfamiliar in the english speaking community :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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yes it's quite familiar, I guess I thought the concept of "orbit testing" had some extended theory and explanation behind it ??

Links?
 

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_sideways_ said:
if you can't tolerate it why is it taking space up in your mind.

if I can't tolerate squash peas I don't even have it in my life, or think about it, or talk about how I can't have it. You know?
it's (was) taking space up in my mind because, as human beings, we all like to be sure about our choices asking for advice sometimes. That is the purpose of this forum by the way. If you had read the title of the thread, you would have understood it. You know?
 

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I know the exact feeling, joker79, and it does stay on our minds a bit even if we don't care or tolerate it. So I like what Mauser96 and pyros wrote, and your gut is right. What does it for me is this: if you know your value and the direction of your moral compass (not an afc, not a jerk, but a good dude with a heart and strength), you're the s**t- not her.

Besides, we have better things to do. :cool:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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