franklydarling
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She knows I'm a PUA. Now what?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
LOL! This thread is very un-PUA.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
If you're such a PUA... then drop this skank and grab any other chick you want.
The Librarian
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Don't stress over it. I was actually discussing the psychology behind a lot of PUA techniques with a friend of mine and I realized: a lot of the techniques PUAs use really aren't that different from the techniques that a lot of successful naturals use. The only difference is that the PUAs actually know and can articulate what they're doing.
From your perspective, why should she get pissed at you for actually knowing what you're doing? She would have fallen for the techniques whether you knew what you were doing or whether you were a natural, so I fail to see how what you know or don't know should get you in trouble.
In fact, she ought to be flattered that you were willing to donate your valuable time to her. If you actually are a good PUA, you could have used that time to get other women.
From your perspective, why should she get pissed at you for actually knowing what you're doing? She would have fallen for the techniques whether you knew what you were doing or whether you were a natural, so I fail to see how what you know or don't know should get you in trouble.
In fact, she ought to be flattered that you were willing to donate your valuable time to her. If you actually are a good PUA, you could have used that time to get other women.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She's upset that the attractive you isn't really you. Who can blame her.franklydarling said:So, I've been seeing/f***ing this girl for a few months now and she just busted me for being a PUA. She figured out my DJ alias and knows that I was pretty deep in the PUA community for several years. Apparently, she read through all the info about RSD and MM and read The Game and now is pointing out things that I used on her. She's upset and we're gonna talk about this face-to-face in the next few days. (I was out of town when she figured all of this stuff out.) I do like her, but am not sure if this situation can be salvaged. Advice?
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Whatever you do, don't get on the defensive. Have a laugh about it.
It's up to her to take you or leave you. This is how you show her you're "for real."
It's up to her to take you or leave you. This is how you show her you're "for real."