franklydarling
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She knows I'm a PUA. Now what?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ValleyDJing
Master Don Juan
LOL! This thread is very un-PUA.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
If you're such a PUA... then drop this skank and grab any other chick you want.
The Librarian
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Don't stress over it. I was actually discussing the psychology behind a lot of PUA techniques with a friend of mine and I realized: a lot of the techniques PUAs use really aren't that different from the techniques that a lot of successful naturals use. The only difference is that the PUAs actually know and can articulate what they're doing.
From your perspective, why should she get pissed at you for actually knowing what you're doing? She would have fallen for the techniques whether you knew what you were doing or whether you were a natural, so I fail to see how what you know or don't know should get you in trouble.
In fact, she ought to be flattered that you were willing to donate your valuable time to her. If you actually are a good PUA, you could have used that time to get other women.
From your perspective, why should she get pissed at you for actually knowing what you're doing? She would have fallen for the techniques whether you knew what you were doing or whether you were a natural, so I fail to see how what you know or don't know should get you in trouble.
In fact, she ought to be flattered that you were willing to donate your valuable time to her. If you actually are a good PUA, you could have used that time to get other women.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She's upset that the attractive you isn't really you. Who can blame her.franklydarling said:So, I've been seeing/f***ing this girl for a few months now and she just busted me for being a PUA. She figured out my DJ alias and knows that I was pretty deep in the PUA community for several years. Apparently, she read through all the info about RSD and MM and read The Game and now is pointing out things that I used on her. She's upset and we're gonna talk about this face-to-face in the next few days. (I was out of town when she figured all of this stuff out.) I do like her, but am not sure if this situation can be salvaged. Advice?
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Whatever you do, don't get on the defensive. Have a laugh about it.
It's up to her to take you or leave you. This is how you show her you're "for real."
It's up to her to take you or leave you. This is how you show her you're "for real."