"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She isn't over the ex. Asks for space. Still texts.

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Long story short, I had been hanging out with a great girl these past few months. She gets close and decides she wants to date. Not too long after we are exclusive she tells me she needs space because she still has feelings for her ex bf and doesn't feel like it's fair to me to be together if she is being conflicted emotionally. No begging or pleading on my part, I just let her go letting her know she can have all the space she needs.

Thing is she still texts and says she is even open to hanging out. Which I"m not willing to do if I can't hang out with her and be close. I don't think that would be good for me.

Any opinions, advice? Anyone had experiences like this before?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ackles said:
Long story short, I had been hanging out with a great girl these past few months. She gets close and decides she wants to date. Not too long after we are exclusive she tells me she needs space because she still has feelings for her ex bf and doesn't feel like it's fair to me to be together if she is being conflicted emotionally. No begging or pleading on my part, I just let her go letting her know she can have all the space she needs.

Thing is she still texts and says she is even open to hanging out. Which I"m not willing to do if I can't hang out with her and be close. I don't think that would be good for me.

Any opinions, advice? Anyone had experiences like this before?
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You got it. Maybe don't even talk to her while she sorts it out with the ex. What could happen is she uses you for emotional support and him for sex, you don't want to start that up. Let her get completely done with him. Start talking to other females.
 
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Wait for her to contact you. When she does, tell her that you're glad to hear from her and ask her out for a date/time certain. She will either accept or not.

If she accepts, great! Go on that 'date' and just have fun. If she doesn't agree to your idea (either by saying 'no' outright of equivocating) tell her it was good to hear from her and that you've got to go.
 
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Tictac said:
Wait for her to contact you. When she does, tell her that you're glad to hear from her and ask her out for a date/time certain. She will either accept or not.

If she accepts, great! Go on that 'date' and just have fun. If she doesn't agree to your idea (either by saying 'no' outright of equivocating) tell her it was good to hear from her and that you've got to go.
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Just whatever you do don't chase her too much, because she might just love the arrangement knowing your on the backburner as a "chaser" while SHE "chases" her real prize.
 
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mrgoodstuff said:
Just whatever you do don't chase her too much, because she might just love the arrangement knowing your on the backburner as a "chaser" while SHE "chases" her real prize.
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This, don't play her drama game. I mean, you need to give them a little drama, but in your terms, by you being the bad guy, not the nice "backup" guy.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Like someone else said, if she's so open to still hanging out make the terms be at your house. Don't be going out with this girl and wasting time. You are making her sh!t or get off the pot by agreeing to hangout but only on YOUR terms.
 
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Well, at least she's trying to be honest and fair, in her own twisted womanly way ;)
 
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