"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She isn't over the ex. Asks for space. Still texts.

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Long story short, I had been hanging out with a great girl these past few months. She gets close and decides she wants to date. Not too long after we are exclusive she tells me she needs space because she still has feelings for her ex bf and doesn't feel like it's fair to me to be together if she is being conflicted emotionally. No begging or pleading on my part, I just let her go letting her know she can have all the space she needs.

Thing is she still texts and says she is even open to hanging out. Which I"m not willing to do if I can't hang out with her and be close. I don't think that would be good for me.

Any opinions, advice? Anyone had experiences like this before?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ackles said:
Long story short, I had been hanging out with a great girl these past few months. She gets close and decides she wants to date. Not too long after we are exclusive she tells me she needs space because she still has feelings for her ex bf and doesn't feel like it's fair to me to be together if she is being conflicted emotionally. No begging or pleading on my part, I just let her go letting her know she can have all the space she needs.

Thing is she still texts and says she is even open to hanging out. Which I"m not willing to do if I can't hang out with her and be close. I don't think that would be good for me.

Any opinions, advice? Anyone had experiences like this before?
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You got it. Maybe don't even talk to her while she sorts it out with the ex. What could happen is she uses you for emotional support and him for sex, you don't want to start that up. Let her get completely done with him. Start talking to other females.
 
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Wait for her to contact you. When she does, tell her that you're glad to hear from her and ask her out for a date/time certain. She will either accept or not.

If she accepts, great! Go on that 'date' and just have fun. If she doesn't agree to your idea (either by saying 'no' outright of equivocating) tell her it was good to hear from her and that you've got to go.
 
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Tictac said:
Wait for her to contact you. When she does, tell her that you're glad to hear from her and ask her out for a date/time certain. She will either accept or not.

If she accepts, great! Go on that 'date' and just have fun. If she doesn't agree to your idea (either by saying 'no' outright of equivocating) tell her it was good to hear from her and that you've got to go.
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Just whatever you do don't chase her too much, because she might just love the arrangement knowing your on the backburner as a "chaser" while SHE "chases" her real prize.
 
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mrgoodstuff said:
Just whatever you do don't chase her too much, because she might just love the arrangement knowing your on the backburner as a "chaser" while SHE "chases" her real prize.
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This, don't play her drama game. I mean, you need to give them a little drama, but in your terms, by you being the bad guy, not the nice "backup" guy.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Like someone else said, if she's so open to still hanging out make the terms be at your house. Don't be going out with this girl and wasting time. You are making her sh!t or get off the pot by agreeing to hangout but only on YOUR terms.
 
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Well, at least she's trying to be honest and fair, in her own twisted womanly way ;)
 
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