dman
Don Juan
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First time poster here. Here are the cliff notes of my situation. Looking for advice on how to play this.
I met her while she was on vacation. She is from mainland China, was in an unhappy relationship for 3 years. Was supposed to marry and have kids (society pressure), but that plus the fact she wasn't getting her emotional or sexual needs met at home, caused her to want to end their relationship. She had been wanting to leave for several months but lacked the courage. Then she met me.
We eventually slept together and spent a week together while she was on holiday. We really hit it off in all ways. The sex is incredible btw.
That was 6 months ago.
2 months ago she finally broke up with her Chinese boyfriend and moved out on her own.
Every month since we met, we have found a way to see each other for 5 - 7 days. I visit her and she would sneak to see me, or she would come back to visit me, or recently we just went on a 2 week holiday together, which was the most amazing trip we have both ever had. She was perfect, attentive, everything a man could want. She always acts like my GF when we are together.
Side note, she does have trust issues due to past relationships, and some intimacy issues as well.
That said, she says flat out she doesn't want a relationship now, and that I need to give her time. She says she wants to have fun and who knows the future, but she is not even thinking about a boyfriend. HOWEVER, she said she does not want me to be with other women and gets insanely jealous if she thinks I am even looking at one.
I'm crazy about her. She knows it. I've expressed my feelings. For the first time in my life, I'm all in should she want it.
So, we have crazy monkey sex once a month and have a lot of fun together. But, of course I would like to turn this into a real relationship. No problem relocating.
How do I play this?
It's been 2 months, going on 3 since her break up. I'm supposed to see her again next week, then again on New Years, where we stay together the entire time.
Do I just keep waiting and waiting, giving her unlimited time with the hope she comes around, or at some time do I have to draw the line, or do I pull away and make her notice when she is missing? Not sure if I can, or if I should, try to move this along, or just wait it out.
I haven't been in this position before and I'm all in with her, so I'm at a loss as how to play this out.
Thanks in advance guys.
I met her while she was on vacation. She is from mainland China, was in an unhappy relationship for 3 years. Was supposed to marry and have kids (society pressure), but that plus the fact she wasn't getting her emotional or sexual needs met at home, caused her to want to end their relationship. She had been wanting to leave for several months but lacked the courage. Then she met me.
We eventually slept together and spent a week together while she was on holiday. We really hit it off in all ways. The sex is incredible btw.
That was 6 months ago.
2 months ago she finally broke up with her Chinese boyfriend and moved out on her own.
Every month since we met, we have found a way to see each other for 5 - 7 days. I visit her and she would sneak to see me, or she would come back to visit me, or recently we just went on a 2 week holiday together, which was the most amazing trip we have both ever had. She was perfect, attentive, everything a man could want. She always acts like my GF when we are together.
Side note, she does have trust issues due to past relationships, and some intimacy issues as well.
That said, she says flat out she doesn't want a relationship now, and that I need to give her time. She says she wants to have fun and who knows the future, but she is not even thinking about a boyfriend. HOWEVER, she said she does not want me to be with other women and gets insanely jealous if she thinks I am even looking at one.
I'm crazy about her. She knows it. I've expressed my feelings. For the first time in my life, I'm all in should she want it.
So, we have crazy monkey sex once a month and have a lot of fun together. But, of course I would like to turn this into a real relationship. No problem relocating.
How do I play this?
It's been 2 months, going on 3 since her break up. I'm supposed to see her again next week, then again on New Years, where we stay together the entire time.
Do I just keep waiting and waiting, giving her unlimited time with the hope she comes around, or at some time do I have to draw the line, or do I pull away and make her notice when she is missing? Not sure if I can, or if I should, try to move this along, or just wait it out.
I haven't been in this position before and I'm all in with her, so I'm at a loss as how to play this out.
Thanks in advance guys.