"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So I met this girl 2 months ago, we hang out a lot but just as friends. the issue is she texts me a lot but when she is with me and other people she ignores me or just pay way more attention to the others over me, even though she is the one who texting me to come and knows me way more than the other people. wierd. because she is really outgoing and not shy at all. I dont know what she thinks, she also might know that i like her because the way i act with her but dont want to make the move because i might move soon, just want to know whats on her head, its soo confusing.
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dustmuffin

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So I met this girl 2 months ago, we hang out a lot but just as friends. the issue is she texts me a lot but when she is with me and other people she ignores me or just pay way more attention to the others over me, even though she is the one who texting me to come and knows me way more than the other people. wierd. because she is really outgoing and not shy at all. I dont know what she thinks, she also might know that i like her because the way i act with her but dont want to make the move because i might move soon, just want to know whats on her head, its soo confusing.
How old are you? You want a friend? Stay with her. Want more? Move on.
 

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i never text her, she is the one who initiates most of the time. i just want to know if she is doing it coz she likes me or something else
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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CuddleJunkie

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Yeah, she initiates but you talk with her a lot over text. So then she has nothing to talk about with you. When I was in HS I had a relationship like this with a nerdy girl, we would talk about lot of things, but then she would spend more time with other people when out. It's only natural, two people can only spend so much time together.
Does she likes you? Who knows. The question is : do you like her? if yes scalate, if not enjoy your time together as friends.
 

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i never text her, she is the one who initiates most of the time. i just want to know if she is doing it coz she likes me or something else
At 29, you should know if a woman likes you to be more than just a friend.
 

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A woman with high interest generally won't confuse you. She will make her interest clear.

I suggest you read anti dumps machine in the dj Bible.
 

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Dump her ass unless you just want to be her iOrbiter. Text her you started seeing someone and move on.

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Stop texting so much. This is a young man's problem. Text her back you're going to go get a beer, come on over. (Unless she don't drink) if she ever takes you up on the offer you get that beer in a nice, safe but edgy place, with a pool table or some such. This is a place where she's not likely to know people. Sort it out real quick.
If she wants to just be friends, you say yeah, I was thinking the same. .move on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i never text her, she is the one who initiates most of the time. i just want to know if she is doing it coz she likes me or something else
The correct answer is "Something else".

Next time she initiates, don't respond. And then next time she initiates, don't respond. Keep repeating this behavior until she no longer texts.
 

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If you want to, make your move. Kiss her and find out..... if she stops you, stop wasting all your valuable time texting her. You have weights to lift, books to read, all kinds of other things that IMPROVE your life. If she isn't adding to it, she's subtracting from it
 
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