"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So I met this girl 2 months ago, we hang out a lot but just as friends. the issue is she texts me a lot but when she is with me and other people she ignores me or just pay way more attention to the others over me, even though she is the one who texting me to come and knows me way more than the other people. wierd. because she is really outgoing and not shy at all. I dont know what she thinks, she also might know that i like her because the way i act with her but dont want to make the move because i might move soon, just want to know whats on her head, its soo confusing.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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So I met this girl 2 months ago, we hang out a lot but just as friends. the issue is she texts me a lot but when she is with me and other people she ignores me or just pay way more attention to the others over me, even though she is the one who texting me to come and knows me way more than the other people. wierd. because she is really outgoing and not shy at all. I dont know what she thinks, she also might know that i like her because the way i act with her but dont want to make the move because i might move soon, just want to know whats on her head, its soo confusing.
How old are you? You want a friend? Stay with her. Want more? Move on.
 

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i never text her, she is the one who initiates most of the time. i just want to know if she is doing it coz she likes me or something else
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CuddleJunkie

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Yeah, she initiates but you talk with her a lot over text. So then she has nothing to talk about with you. When I was in HS I had a relationship like this with a nerdy girl, we would talk about lot of things, but then she would spend more time with other people when out. It's only natural, two people can only spend so much time together.
Does she likes you? Who knows. The question is : do you like her? if yes scalate, if not enjoy your time together as friends.
 

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i never text her, she is the one who initiates most of the time. i just want to know if she is doing it coz she likes me or something else
At 29, you should know if a woman likes you to be more than just a friend.
 

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A woman with high interest generally won't confuse you. She will make her interest clear.

I suggest you read anti dumps machine in the dj Bible.
 

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Dump her ass unless you just want to be her iOrbiter. Text her you started seeing someone and move on.

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Stop texting so much. This is a young man's problem. Text her back you're going to go get a beer, come on over. (Unless she don't drink) if she ever takes you up on the offer you get that beer in a nice, safe but edgy place, with a pool table or some such. This is a place where she's not likely to know people. Sort it out real quick.
If she wants to just be friends, you say yeah, I was thinking the same. .move on.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i never text her, she is the one who initiates most of the time. i just want to know if she is doing it coz she likes me or something else
The correct answer is "Something else".

Next time she initiates, don't respond. And then next time she initiates, don't respond. Keep repeating this behavior until she no longer texts.
 

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If you want to, make your move. Kiss her and find out..... if she stops you, stop wasting all your valuable time texting her. You have weights to lift, books to read, all kinds of other things that IMPROVE your life. If she isn't adding to it, she's subtracting from it
 
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