she has a kid. what do i do?

[rocco]

I met this girl, she's cute. but on a first date she wanted to bring her kid along. what's the right thing to do?

 

[Bible_Belt]

she has a kid. what do i do?

2nd that, run

 

[joekerr31]

run faster FASTER before it gets you!

 

[squirrels]

Thank her for establishing up front that she's trying to find a father for her kid, instead of trying to con you into liking her first and then springing it on you.

And if that's not your thing (and it sounds by the way you posted like it's not), I agree with all posters above.

 

[Desdinova]

but on a first date she wanted to bring her kid along.

Tell her you're not interested in fvcking her child. Then lose her number and move on.

 

[jophil28]

Geez do you really need us to tell you what to do.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I met this girl, she's cute. but on a first date she wanted to bring her kid along. what's the right thing to do?

What are you going to do, babysit?

 

[rocco]

What are you going to do, babysit?

yeah i agree. i told her we should get together some other time when she has someone to babysit the kid.. i don't mind hanging out with her family, but i'd like to get to know her first.

 

[rocco]

run faster FASTER before it gets you!

:crackup:

 

[Gangster Of Love]

She can bring her kid a long, if you want, after you have bagged her, and when you go over to her house to eat from what she cooks for you.

 

[rocco]

has anyone been in a situation like this before? where a girl you met and like, wants to see how you get along with her family first? how'd you handle it? and how'd the relationship go?

so far this has happened to me once before. when this girl i met, she wanted me to go on dates with her to her church on the first few dates... i was like okay..
man.. that never worked out.. lol

 

[penkitten]

buy bubblegum?

 

[joekerr31]

ok, ill be serious here.

if you like kids then whats the big deal.

heck, if you like kdis and dont mind being a temporary daddy - assuming you get along with the kid - you've got about a 98% chance of getting laid.

and no, i would not meet a womans family on a first date. a first date is designed for me to qualify her - NOT the other way around.

 

[Latinoman]

The issue is not the child per se. I know men that like kids and that's their prerrogative.

The HUGE issue here is bringing her child on the first date. I expect a woman to be protective of her child and not expose the child to the first man she meets. It shows lack of judgement on her part.

Do you want to be with a woman that shows such lack of judgement?

I personally avoid as much as possible women with children (or minor kids). And I'm 39. But that's my personal preferrence.

 

[MatureDJ]

It's very obvious that this woman places a very high value on her man taking up the provisioner role for her family. That the biological father is not the provisioner is of no concern to her (I think Rollo Tomassi mentioned this as the dichotomy of the short and long term mating strategies that the typical single mommy ascribes.)

This woman seems to be going as far as to test her suitor in this provisioning role by not offering up any individual intimacy.

I just have one question - are you that much of a desperate loser to put with this behvavior?

 

[rocco]

I just have one question - are you that much of a desperate loser to put with this behvavior?

fuc u dic! i just met her like a few days ago. this sh1t was out of the blue, i didnt know she was going to want to bring her kid to our first date. fuc u

 

[rocco]

(delete)

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

has anyone been in a situation like this before? where a girl you met and like, wants to see how you get along with her family first? how'd you handle it? and how'd the relationship go?..

If it's really soon it's typically a woman who holds her family's opinion above her own. It could be problematic.

 

[decades]

It's a major Red Flag when a woman wants you to meet the child on date #1. They hardly get any more red. Drop the plate.

 

[GamePlan]

I think you have to think about this yourself.

If you ask such a question on here the answer you'll get is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Almost everybody will tell you "Dont do it", because most people's goal on here (at least of those who post) is scoring with (many) women. And in that case a woman with a kid only means trouble.

It's a bit like going to the KuKluxKlan and asking if you should be friends with non-white people despite their skin color LOL. The answer is obvious.

I think you really have to think about this yourself. It's your life so you decide what to do with it.

Let me tell you something else, though. On a website of my collge (theres a forum, too) a young woman with a child asked a question like that, too..she seemed to be pretty sad, b/c finding a man was obviously so much harder for her as she had already found out that most men are opposed to that idea.

I think your chick knows the same thing and maybe that has something to do with her introducing her child to you on day 1. I mean her baby is not a puppet to her or a toy (at least I hope so), so she can only look for men who she thinks would make a good father to her child/accept the fact that she has a child..I dont see anything wrong with that. Like somebody said its definitely better than telling you about that after the first couple dates like "hey btw, I got a kid"...

However, I agree that she shouldnt bring it to your first dates..and you shouldnt hang out with her family on your first date...maybe she's way overdoing?

But anyways, I think it really depends on what your goals with the other gender are.

For example, I probably wouldnt date a woman who has a kid at the moment, because I still want to get laid with other chicks and all and getting with a woman who has a kid means long term relationship.

But if I was say in my late 20's or early 30's and I really liked the chick and all I don't think it would be that big of an issue if everything else was great. A friend of mine is 28 and married to his long time girlfriend and has 2 kids and enjoys that way of life...

I really think you have to find out what you want yourself, because if you ask this here or take advice from this forum the answer is pretty obvious as most people who post on here are into working on their game and scoring with chicks.