She has a boyfriend, so what.

[BB123]

I've been talking to this girl for about 3 months and she has a boyfriend but she slept with me anyways the first night we met. So I've seen her a three or four times sense then; getting drinks and back to my place once. Anyways I keep initiating contact rarely does she however I always get a quick response and she seems very interested.
Recently I invited her to and activity and she said she wanted to go but had to work. Pretty clear she was upset she couldn't come because of work. I also figure that she is having issues with the boyfriend at this point. I cut the conversation saying I would take her when she was free but I failed to set the date at that time. She reallllllly wanted to go.
So a day or two later I thought I should probably set the date...and she will not respond suddenly.
I think I should have been more aggressive when I found out she was fighting with her boyfriend and invited her out then because she couldn't come to the date. Or could she just be testing me to see if I will react? I like the girl but I'm not sure how to react? Wait a few more days? Or ask her what is wrong? I know her current relationship is a bit rocky. Could just be something going on.

 

[BB123]

If she is having relationship issues should I be more available or less?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

If she is having relationship issues should I be more available or less?

less. Any overt conversations about her relationship with her boyfriend, and you may come across as trying to be his replacement. Unless you want to, avoid those kind of conversations, lest you become the rebound boyfriend.

lay back for a while, and look around for other girls in the meantime.

let her come to you. don't be needy.

 

[BB123]

Well I have tried that before and waited two weeks. She won't initiate contact; only once back when we first met. If I go a week or two without texting her I find out she wants me to contact her through her friends or facebook. I don't know what to make of it.

 

[SecondHalf]

BB, make sure it's just about fun, and make sure she's not your only option.

If you have serious designs on this chick for a long term relationship, you'll end up with a liar and a skank.

You would merely be another branch is her hypergamous journey to the top.


SH

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I've been talking to this girl for about 3 months and she has a boyfriend but she slept with me anyways the first night we met. So I've seen her a three or four times sense then; getting drinks and back to my place once. Anyways I keep initiating contact rarely does she however I always get a quick response and she seems very interested.
Recently I invited her to and activity and she said she wanted to go but had to work. Pretty clear she was upset she couldn't come because of work. I also figure that she is having issues with the boyfriend at this point. I cut the conversation saying I would take her when she was free but I failed to set the date at that time. She reallllllly wanted to go.
So a day or two later I thought I should probably set the date...and she will not respond suddenly.
I think I should have been more aggressive when I found out she was fighting with her boyfriend and invited her out then because she couldn't come to the date. Or could she just be testing me to see if I will react? I like the girl but I'm not sure how to react? Wait a few more days? Or ask her what is wrong? I know her current relationship is a bit rocky. Could just be something going on.

She cheated on her BF with you and you think her relationship is a bit rocky? Could be something going on. Wow

She sabotage her relationship dude, she is not a quality chick. SMH

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear BB123,
She sounds like she is really worth going that extra yard for!