I am a very attractive guy. I'm 16 years old and very confident due to the amount of girls that say I'm attractive. When I meet a girl in person I can talk about anything. There is this girl who looks at me everyday. Even when she's with her boyfriend when I was by see stares at me. She likes all my pictures on Instagram and she likes the pictures I post without a shirt on. How can I test to see if she likes me? And also we have never talked before.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She has a boyfriend. But I think she wants me...
- Thread starter Djprep
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Master Don Juan
If women make you feel confident, that's not real confidence my friend.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The first thing you do is actually go talk to her.Djprep said:
But before you do that, think carefully on what you might say.
I'm going to assume that you're still in school, so like it or not, your reputation is fairly important. Depending on the people around you, they might consider chasing another guy's girl as a bad move and could turn you into a social outcast.
Have any of your friends noticed this girl, are they giving you 'advice'?
Reputation is hard to fix once you've busted it.
...and your face (OP) might be hard to fix when her boyfriend has busted it.Cremasta said:
Realise that at your time of life now you will never be surrounded by so many unattached female choices as you are now, is it really worth it?