I am a very attractive guy. I'm 16 years old and very confident due to the amount of girls that say I'm attractive. When I meet a girl in person I can talk about anything. There is this girl who looks at me everyday. Even when she's with her boyfriend when I was by see stares at me. She likes all my pictures on Instagram and she likes the pictures I post without a shirt on. How can I test to see if she likes me? And also we have never talked before.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She has a boyfriend. But I think she wants me...
- Thread starter Djprep
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Skyline
Master Don Juan
If women make you feel confident, that's not real confidence my friend.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The first thing you do is actually go talk to her.Djprep said:
But before you do that, think carefully on what you might say.
I'm going to assume that you're still in school, so like it or not, your reputation is fairly important. Depending on the people around you, they might consider chasing another guy's girl as a bad move and could turn you into a social outcast.
Have any of your friends noticed this girl, are they giving you 'advice'?
Reputation is hard to fix once you've busted it.
...and your face (OP) might be hard to fix when her boyfriend has busted it.Cremasta said:
Realise that at your time of life now you will never be surrounded by so many unattached female choices as you are now, is it really worth it?