"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She HAS a backup plan...
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Imagine if hordes of girls orbited you, hit on you, and you could get a girl at the snap of your finger. You'd have a backup plan too.
The real problem is all the desperate, spineless guys out there. The girls are just taking advantage of it.
Plate theory comes from women.
So this should be no surprise once your eyes are open. We are fighting fire
with fire.
In fact, I would say that a lot of "game" comes from tactics that women use.
Negging for example is a female invention. It's still being used in the media to chip away at our
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LiveFreeX
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You give them too much credit man. What you mentioned is mostly the result of women playing by different rules. Rules that are heavily in their favor. Having plates/backups, negging, sh*t testing, etc are mainly the result of women having more power and options than men. They're not even responsible for being in this position either, men did it to themselves.
To give women credit for this stuff is like giving out a participation trophy and saying everyone won.
taiyuu_otoko
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mrgoodstuff
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It's even in the bible, of men being slain by women or taken for their riches. This type of conniving behavior has been around likely before the Egyptians.
zekko
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The one thing in that poll that was missing that I wondered about is how many backup men had no idea they were the backup man, lol?
A lot of that goes to show how many guys tolerate their women hanging out and spending time with other men under the guise of being "friends". I'm not a jealous type, really, but that sh!t isn't going to fly in any relationship of mine. If she wants to be close to some other dude, she can go be with him, and I'll find someone else.
I agree with Yewki that women play by different rules. The idea that women can have orbiters comes partly from their pre-feminist weaker stature. They need a guy to work on their car, they need a guy to fix their roof, they need a guy to reach something from the higher shelf, they need a guy to buy them dinner, they need a guy to tell them they look nice, etc. etc. They don't always have to be a different guy, but different guys have different skills.
yungballa
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But, who cares? No one is forcing you to be tied down to any girl. You don't owe any loyalty to a woman until you've got a ring on your finger. Until then, I'd do as much slvtting around as possible. Ain't like you married to anybody, lol.
Women are the ones who are being approached all the time, have guys constantly giving them attention, and so on so forth. They just sit back and everything comes to them. That's just how women live.
Guys are the ones who go OUT bravely and approach (well, most guys). There might be that lucky guy who's constantly getting female attention, and probably won't have to do anything. But at the end of the day, females are the ones who take it easy while the guys have to take action and iniate everything most of the time. Therefore, because everything comes to women, they have options. But, who said guys can't have options too? All you've got to do is go OUT THERE and get those options.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Agreed. My wife has ZERO male friends. Furthermore I would not tolerate her hanging out one-on-one with another man ever.
Guys make concessions for this type of behavior early in the relationship. I know I have---and I paid for it. Pretty sure I've been cheated on, and I know for certain one of them rebounded to her 100% platonic male "friend" within 48 hours of me dumping her.
Old news but a lack of female friends or a preponderance of guy friends is just a big red flag. Don't think your girl is the exception---she isn't.
SuckItUp
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They notice immediately if you have displayed prior value. 99% of men have no game. Even if she wanders for a few weeks, it is just a matter of time before she realize he is a screw up like the rest of them.
Kailex
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According to this study, 43% of the women surveyed were being honest.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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