"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She HAS a backup plan...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Imagine if hordes of girls orbited you, hit on you, and you could get a girl at the snap of your finger. You'd have a backup plan too.
The real problem is all the desperate, spineless guys out there. The girls are just taking advantage of it.
Plate theory comes from women.
So this should be no surprise once your eyes are open. We are fighting fire
with fire.
In fact, I would say that a lot of "game" comes from tactics that women use.
Negging for example is a female invention. It's still being used in the media to chip away at our
smv.
LiveFreeX
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You give them too much credit man. What you mentioned is mostly the result of women playing by different rules. Rules that are heavily in their favor. Having plates/backups, negging, sh*t testing, etc are mainly the result of women having more power and options than men. They're not even responsible for being in this position either, men did it to themselves.
To give women credit for this stuff is like giving out a participation trophy and saying everyone won.
taiyuu_otoko
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mrgoodstuff
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It's even in the bible, of men being slain by women or taken for their riches. This type of conniving behavior has been around likely before the Egyptians.
zekko
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The one thing in that poll that was missing that I wondered about is how many backup men had no idea they were the backup man, lol?
A lot of that goes to show how many guys tolerate their women hanging out and spending time with other men under the guise of being "friends". I'm not a jealous type, really, but that sh!t isn't going to fly in any relationship of mine. If she wants to be close to some other dude, she can go be with him, and I'll find someone else.
I agree with Yewki that women play by different rules. The idea that women can have orbiters comes partly from their pre-feminist weaker stature. They need a guy to work on their car, they need a guy to fix their roof, they need a guy to reach something from the higher shelf, they need a guy to buy them dinner, they need a guy to tell them they look nice, etc. etc. They don't always have to be a different guy, but different guys have different skills.
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But, who cares? No one is forcing you to be tied down to any girl. You don't owe any loyalty to a woman until you've got a ring on your finger. Until then, I'd do as much slvtting around as possible. Ain't like you married to anybody, lol.
Women are the ones who are being approached all the time, have guys constantly giving them attention, and so on so forth. They just sit back and everything comes to them. That's just how women live.
Guys are the ones who go OUT bravely and approach (well, most guys). There might be that lucky guy who's constantly getting female attention, and probably won't have to do anything. But at the end of the day, females are the ones who take it easy while the guys have to take action and iniate everything most of the time. Therefore, because everything comes to women, they have options. But, who said guys can't have options too? All you've got to do is go OUT THERE and get those options.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Agreed. My wife has ZERO male friends. Furthermore I would not tolerate her hanging out one-on-one with another man ever.
Guys make concessions for this type of behavior early in the relationship. I know I have---and I paid for it. Pretty sure I've been cheated on, and I know for certain one of them rebounded to her 100% platonic male "friend" within 48 hours of me dumping her.
Old news but a lack of female friends or a preponderance of guy friends is just a big red flag. Don't think your girl is the exception---she isn't.
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They notice immediately if you have displayed prior value. 99% of men have no game. Even if she wanders for a few weeks, it is just a matter of time before she realize he is a screw up like the rest of them.
Kailex
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According to this study, 43% of the women surveyed were being honest.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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