HalfAddict
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I'm going to the gym. Stop being pussies.:kick:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She flaked boo-hoo
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
But she was my whole life... Even though we just met. Do you think there's something I did wrong? Should I call her, and apologize - then leave a hundred voicemails asking for another chance? What do you think of this idea? Too AFC BFF OMG?
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Fitting eh
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Update, after she flaked I sent a message that said k, and initiated no contact.
Tonight she is calling me. Just wanted to throw that out there.
Tonight she is calling me. Just wanted to throw that out there.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mustfirstregister
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nothing surprising...i get flakes all the time.
5string
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Should have sent her flowers, texted her 400 times, left voice mail messages and hid behind the bushes by her front door for a fleeting glimpse of the oneitis while at the same time spanking your weasel till it throws up.
Seriously though. Nice job!!!
Seriously though. Nice job!!!
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Update on this one, we have hung out a few times I have been reluctant to seal the deal, we have gone to 3rd base a few times.. I feel like her IL is starting to drop. Thinking I may just have to do it, not that it is a bad thing, I was just trying to get things to move a bit slower as I am not just looking for someone to ****, but this may end up turning into just that.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SamTheHobit
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Lol @ this thread! xD
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Hey, it happens to us all.
Just have fun without the girl.
It's best if you play a moonlight serenade in front of her window, then fill up her voicemail, and send her 93 text messages, all different. Do this in any order you please, it works great. Extra points for stalking her!
You're obviously a retard if you do the red.
Case closed.
Just have fun without the girl.
It's best if you play a moonlight serenade in front of her window, then fill up her voicemail, and send her 93 text messages, all different. Do this in any order you please, it works great. Extra points for stalking her!
You're obviously a retard if you do the red.
Case closed.
5string
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Not if you get to see her playing with her coochie through the window!st_99 said:is that bad?
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LOL5string said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.