AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
What do you mean when you say hamster wheel is spinning? I saw someone say that earlier, but wasn't sure on the terminology.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She caught me ****ing another *****, is it finished
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
CMNILS87
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Remember that little voice in your head when you were super AFC to think everything over. When they hamster spinning on here, most of the master DJ refer to a Gal overthinking a situation or thinking about it 24/7. This gal just found out that you're banging another girl which just social proofed you as an in demand male. In this case, I'd think she's backing off with that big text, it seems really somber and her "emotional core" is hurt because she hasn't locked you down. I think....she was thinking after casually dating for 5-6 months that you weren't seeing anybody else, but little missy got thrown for a loop. Don't contact and let her come to you, I guarantee it'll be a lets be exclusive or a goodbye.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
She contacted me last night at about 11pm. She wants to come see me Saturday.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
***UPDATE***
Her interest level is through the roof, she wants the D bad Saturday. Thanks for the moral support gentlemen.
Her interest level is through the roof, she wants the D bad Saturday. Thanks for the moral support gentlemen.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
Social proof + mate competition + alpha frame (what we helped guide you to here) = wants the D bad.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
The culmination of don juan training. Life is crazy man, I just can't believe women really act like this.
AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
They are animals like any other.
CMNILS87
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Glad I was wrong. Girl must really have her panties in a bunch thinking another girl is gonna "steal her man".
Just tell her the truth. be like look you fukkin pissed me off earlier and plate 2 was there to mend my wounds and yes I was having sex with her. you and I are not exclusive and you dont see me creeping around your place to see who's next on your c0ck carousel. So get down or lay down IDGAF but realize if you want any part of me you need to approach me respectfully do you understand me.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
I have a similar response planned for when she brings it up on our date tonight. She's sexy so there's no way she's used to hearing **** like this from guys. Fatality.
AttackFormation
Master Don Juan
Saying something like that would be a great way to both "Fatality" the alpha frame you have now and destroy your congruity by now reacting like that after you reacted like an alpha previously. If that's what you want you should definitely go ahead with your similar response.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Nope. If she has any self respect ! And if she sticks around any longer, everything will change and you will lose interest in her.
Simple man. You arent official.
Tell her we aren't an item and never had that discussion. You can't just be randomly dropping by. Soften it by saying you aren't trying to be mean, just being honest. Nothing about exclustivity was mentioned beforehand.
Don't be afraid to lose her. You haven't done anything wrong and theres always more where she came from.
She will know you are right deep down and women can't control their emotions or desires. So u are good.
HeadLightsOn
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This is such a great thread. It's a McDonalds moment - "I'm lovin' it!'
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
grayclif
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Huh!!!
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Awaiting the update, OP.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
***UPDATE***
Last night we went out for a nice Italian dinner, then saw deadpool, took a cab back to the hotel. We got wasted.
Around 2am we got in bed and i undressed her. We got to the point where I normally put it in, and she just stops me out of nowhere goes cold. I'm just sitting there and i say "so is this your grand design?"
She goes on to tell me "i broke her heart the other night. I broke her heart."
I told her things had come full circle. I stroked her hair and kissed her. Said nothing else on the subject and proceeded to **** her.
As far as I can tell, things are exactly the same as before, except she deleted all our pics off FB. No sweat off my back. I'll keep you guys posted though.
Nice job dude!
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
Here is yet another vital update. Keep in mind this chick is a hb8. I nc after hotel this morning and got this gem:
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.