i played it cool...missed her not doubt, i won't lie. But she text me today saying " im sorry i havn't been able to see you this week., can we get together tomorrow night?.... My reply was..."sure, no problem." BUT i wanted to say "where the he11 have you been?"....again, ive got a few issue's i need to work on no doubt.....i would like input but mostly im venting..thank you bother's either way.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
she blinked...after 5/6 days
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- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Lucifero
Senior Don Juan
You better drop the emotional **** or get out of the game or you WILL get hurt.teachme said:
Johnnyventana
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At least you have a feel for how you should respond and an awareness of how whacked the response you didn't use is. It is important that you keep that in check and don't ever let that inner-weakness-*****-thing out. It will only push her away. So be fun, be happy, make her smile and laugh. Don't be a ***** now that you got the date. She did contact you. That is something.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
You should have declined and said you were busy. Her IL woulda went higher. Now she thinks she can get you anytime.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
Even though i probably would have done the same as you, in theory, this was the right thing to do;
PrettyBoyAJ said: