"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She asks "how long has it been..?"

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When a girl asks you How long has it been (before her) that you've last had sex. What would be the best answer to tell her? I mean I can't stay mysterious about it when she really wants to know. Would it be better if I said a Year? or like 6 months? Definitely don't want to say like a month or something cause I think that will make her feel like I fvck random girls all the time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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baurman said:
Definitely don't want to say like a month or something cause I think that will make her feel like I fvck random girls all the time.
I think you should, girls like guys who get laid easily, contrary to any BS they may tell you.

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Is it any of her business?
 

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YOU: How about you?
HER: I asked you first.
YOU: I asked you second. Tell me.

HER: Ah ok, half a year.
YOU: Oh really.. So you dying to have sex with me! I knew it!

or

HER: Ah ok, last night.
YOU: Me, this morning. I really do get laid a lot. Sex is borring....
YOU: **before she opens her mouth** Unless you can do something wonderful.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"I don't kiss and tell."

OR

"I don't f*** and tell."

Add a sly little wink at the end for extra OOMF. Keeps her guessing too, and it dismisses the question.

Honestly, a question like that, not answered in a way that I said or Mr. Wolf said is a lose-lose situation. If you say something recent, she'll either think that you are lying or would probably cheat, or that you like to f*** around. If you say something too long, there are a number of things she could think from that.

One thing my friend says to questions like that is, "Had sex...like...with a guy? Do you honestly think I'm gay? Wow, I'm hurt. Well, let me prove you that I'm straight" He used it recently, in a joking manner, and it worked.
 

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"I never understood keeping track of things like that. Why don't you tell me your last time and why you keep track?"

No reason not to throw her tests right back at her.
 

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good responses. I know you hit it back to her but then she'll answer and how will you respond? for example when you hit her back with how long has it been for her and she says "a week ago...now what about you?" or "a few months ago" something like that. where you need to give an answer and can't just beat around the bush.
 

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baurman said:
good responses. I know you hit it back to her but then she'll answer and how will you respond? for example when you hit her back with how long has it been for her and she says "a week ago...now what about you?" or "a few months ago" something like that. where you need to give an answer and can't just beat around the bush.
That's why you tell her that you don't keep track of such things. This also includes how many women you've been with. Just tell her that straight away. If she persists, take it as a prelude of the sh1t tests to come from her.
 

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baurman said:
good responses. I know you hit it back to her but then she'll answer and how will you respond? for example when you hit her back with how long has it been for her and she says "a week ago...now what about you?" or "a few months ago" something like that. where you need to give an answer and can't just beat around the bush.

It's not about hitting back.. What you really doing is hitting her emotions, not her intellect.. Saying you had sex a week ago or a month ago is intellect..

"Had sex...like...with a guy? Do you honestly think I'm gay? Wow, I'm hurt. Well, let me prove you that I'm straight" is a great response by the way..

She might come back to that, well, no seriously.. Hmmm, I see you really want me.. Keep playing with her, with whatever you do.. Eventually things could get serious and she might want to know, to which you could say I don't keep track of things like this. But you gotta keep playing with her, because it's fun.. And by getting serious with her you are ruining the fun.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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you: "how bout you tell me, and let ME judge you based on your answer?":)
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
But you gotta keep playing with her, because it's fun.. And by getting serious with her you are ruining the fun.
That's the key. The right answer is whatever keeps things light and fun. I would probably say something like "a few hours ago, there were two of them but now it's all about you" or something like that. Or at least, when it comes up I'll say something like that. :rolleyes:
 

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That's the key. The right answer is whatever keeps things light and fun. I would probably say something like "a few hours ago, there were two of them but now it's all about you" or something like that. Or at least, when it comes up I'll say something like that. :rolleyes:
And what do you do when she gets frustrated by the continuous deflections?
 

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I don't know... I'm not with a girl right now. When I'm posting I'm in the logical frame but when with a girl I'm in the fun, teasing, seductive frame and they don't go together.

My overall "message" would be, I'm not going to talk about past experiences, I don't expect you to either, but we're going to have some fun here and you can feel safe with me, and you're going to get all my attention and I'm going to make you feel like an excited little girl and we're both going to have some fun.

I would try to keep it light, throw it back at her in a playful way, while just trying to stay in the moment and make her feel comfortable and safe. I don't think anything I would say would be all that serious anyway--I don't think it's the words that matter so much, just your presence.

Edit-- I realize the OP was just about talking and everything I said was about already being in bed with the chick.

If we were just hanging out and talking, I wouldn't get serious at all. I'd just tease her and make fun of her. Or say whatever I felt like saying. While teasing her.

Otherwise you're entering her frame and all the fun is gone.
 

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...My overall "message" would be, I'm not going to talk about past experiences, I don't expect you to either, but we're going to have some fun here and you can feel safe with me, and you're going to get all my attention and I'm going to make you feel like an excited little girl and we're both going to have some fun...
Now that sounds like something that would work.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Good, maybe there's hope for me. :whistle:
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
And what do you do when she gets frustrated by the continuous deflections?

Would that REALLY happen?


Frankly, I think that she just wants to know if you're safe and wouldn't tell.. Go figure. By the way, I like your response, it's not really getting serious, it just says that you are safe and won't go telling people.. Though, it doesn't offer any fun.. IMO.. Woman is asking that to probe if you won't tell anyone, rather than to know when you last did it.. Does she even care when you last did it, lol.
 

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Would that REALLY happen?


Frankly, I think that she just wants to know if you're safe and wouldn't tell.. Go figure. By the way, I like your response, it's not really getting serious, it just says that you are safe and won't go telling people.. Though, it doesn't offer any fun.. IMO.. Woman is asking that to probe if you won't tell anyone, rather than to know when you last did it.. Does she even care when you last did it, lol.
Prodding her to tell you why she believes keeping track of this wouldn't be fun? Oh you should try it, it's very amusing and gives you a bit of insight into the woman. :up:
 

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Never had a girl ask me that question. I only date virgins so I am not that well-versed in tramp speak. A girl is pretty much ruined once she has had sex with another guy. They are built differently than men down there. Once they have done it their body is forever altered. I also have noticed how their entire attitude changes. Don't ever let some tramp tell you differently. Once a girl has had sex her value drops faster than Enron.
 
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