When a girl asks you How long has it been (before her) that you've last had sex. What would be the best answer to tell her? I mean I can't stay mysterious about it when she really wants to know. Would it be better if I said a Year? or like 6 months? Definitely don't want to say like a month or something cause I think that will make her feel like I fvck random girls all the time.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks "how long has it been..?"
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
YOU: How about you?
HER: I asked you first.
YOU: I asked you second. Tell me.
HER: Ah ok, half a year.
YOU: Oh really.. So you dying to have sex with me! I knew it!
or
HER: Ah ok, last night.
YOU: Me, this morning. I really do get laid a lot. Sex is borring....
YOU: **before she opens her mouth** Unless you can do something wonderful.
HER: I asked you first.
YOU: I asked you second. Tell me.
HER: Ah ok, half a year.
YOU: Oh really.. So you dying to have sex with me! I knew it!
or
HER: Ah ok, last night.
YOU: Me, this morning. I really do get laid a lot. Sex is borring....
YOU: **before she opens her mouth** Unless you can do something wonderful.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"I don't kiss and tell."
OR
"I don't f*** and tell."
Add a sly little wink at the end for extra OOMF. Keeps her guessing too, and it dismisses the question.
Honestly, a question like that, not answered in a way that I said or Mr. Wolf said is a lose-lose situation. If you say something recent, she'll either think that you are lying or would probably cheat, or that you like to f*** around. If you say something too long, there are a number of things she could think from that.
One thing my friend says to questions like that is, "Had sex...like...with a guy? Do you honestly think I'm gay? Wow, I'm hurt. Well, let me prove you that I'm straight" He used it recently, in a joking manner, and it worked.
OR
"I don't f*** and tell."
Add a sly little wink at the end for extra OOMF. Keeps her guessing too, and it dismisses the question.
Honestly, a question like that, not answered in a way that I said or Mr. Wolf said is a lose-lose situation. If you say something recent, she'll either think that you are lying or would probably cheat, or that you like to f*** around. If you say something too long, there are a number of things she could think from that.
One thing my friend says to questions like that is, "Had sex...like...with a guy? Do you honestly think I'm gay? Wow, I'm hurt. Well, let me prove you that I'm straight" He used it recently, in a joking manner, and it worked.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"I never understood keeping track of things like that. Why don't you tell me your last time and why you keep track?"
No reason not to throw her tests right back at her.
No reason not to throw her tests right back at her.
good responses. I know you hit it back to her but then she'll answer and how will you respond? for example when you hit her back with how long has it been for her and she says "a week ago...now what about you?" or "a few months ago" something like that. where you need to give an answer and can't just beat around the bush.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
That's why you tell her that you don't keep track of such things. This also includes how many women you've been with. Just tell her that straight away. If she persists, take it as a prelude of the sh1t tests to come from her.baurman said:
baurman said:
It's not about hitting back.. What you really doing is hitting her emotions, not her intellect.. Saying you had sex a week ago or a month ago is intellect..
"Had sex...like...with a guy? Do you honestly think I'm gay? Wow, I'm hurt. Well, let me prove you that I'm straight" is a great response by the way..
She might come back to that, well, no seriously.. Hmmm, I see you really want me.. Keep playing with her, with whatever you do.. Eventually things could get serious and she might want to know, to which you could say I don't keep track of things like this. But you gotta keep playing with her, because it's fun.. And by getting serious with her you are ruining the fun.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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you: "how bout you tell me, and let ME judge you based on your answer?"
That's the key. The right answer is whatever keeps things light and fun. I would probably say something like "a few hours ago, there were two of them but now it's all about you" or something like that. Or at least, when it comes up I'll say something like that.Mr. Wolf said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
And what do you do when she gets frustrated by the continuous deflections?reset said:That's the key. The right answer is whatever keeps things light and fun. I would probably say something like "a few hours ago, there were two of them but now it's all about you" or something like that. Or at least, when it comes up I'll say something like that.
I don't know... I'm not with a girl right now. When I'm posting I'm in the logical frame but when with a girl I'm in the fun, teasing, seductive frame and they don't go together.
My overall "message" would be, I'm not going to talk about past experiences, I don't expect you to either, but we're going to have some fun here and you can feel safe with me, and you're going to get all my attention and I'm going to make you feel like an excited little girl and we're both going to have some fun.
I would try to keep it light, throw it back at her in a playful way, while just trying to stay in the moment and make her feel comfortable and safe. I don't think anything I would say would be all that serious anyway--I don't think it's the words that matter so much, just your presence.
Edit-- I realize the OP was just about talking and everything I said was about already being in bed with the chick.
If we were just hanging out and talking, I wouldn't get serious at all. I'd just tease her and make fun of her. Or say whatever I felt like saying. While teasing her.
Otherwise you're entering her frame and all the fun is gone.
My overall "message" would be, I'm not going to talk about past experiences, I don't expect you to either, but we're going to have some fun here and you can feel safe with me, and you're going to get all my attention and I'm going to make you feel like an excited little girl and we're both going to have some fun.
I would try to keep it light, throw it back at her in a playful way, while just trying to stay in the moment and make her feel comfortable and safe. I don't think anything I would say would be all that serious anyway--I don't think it's the words that matter so much, just your presence.
Edit-- I realize the OP was just about talking and everything I said was about already being in bed with the chick.
If we were just hanging out and talking, I wouldn't get serious at all. I'd just tease her and make fun of her. Or say whatever I felt like saying. While teasing her.
Otherwise you're entering her frame and all the fun is gone.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Now that sounds like something that would work.reset said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Francisco d'Anconia said:
Would that REALLY happen?
Frankly, I think that she just wants to know if you're safe and wouldn't tell.. Go figure. By the way, I like your response, it's not really getting serious, it just says that you are safe and won't go telling people.. Though, it doesn't offer any fun.. IMO.. Woman is asking that to probe if you won't tell anyone, rather than to know when you last did it.. Does she even care when you last did it, lol.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Prodding her to tell you why she believes keeping track of this wouldn't be fun? Oh you should try it, it's very amusing and gives you a bit of insight into the woman.Mr. Wolf said:
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Never had a girl ask me that question. I only date virgins so I am not that well-versed in tramp speak. A girl is pretty much ruined once she has had sex with another guy. They are built differently than men down there. Once they have done it their body is forever altered. I also have noticed how their entire attitude changes. Don't ever let some tramp tell you differently. Once a girl has had sex her value drops faster than Enron.