When a girl asks you How long has it been (before her) that you've last had sex. What would be the best answer to tell her? I mean I can't stay mysterious about it when she really wants to know. Would it be better if I said a Year? or like 6 months? Definitely don't want to say like a month or something cause I think that will make her feel like I fvck random girls all the time.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks "how long has it been..?"
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
YOU: How about you?
HER: I asked you first.
YOU: I asked you second. Tell me.
HER: Ah ok, half a year.
YOU: Oh really.. So you dying to have sex with me! I knew it!
or
HER: Ah ok, last night.
YOU: Me, this morning. I really do get laid a lot. Sex is borring....
YOU: **before she opens her mouth** Unless you can do something wonderful.
HER: I asked you first.
YOU: I asked you second. Tell me.
HER: Ah ok, half a year.
YOU: Oh really.. So you dying to have sex with me! I knew it!
or
HER: Ah ok, last night.
YOU: Me, this morning. I really do get laid a lot. Sex is borring....
YOU: **before she opens her mouth** Unless you can do something wonderful.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"I don't kiss and tell."
OR
"I don't f*** and tell."
Add a sly little wink at the end for extra OOMF. Keeps her guessing too, and it dismisses the question.
Honestly, a question like that, not answered in a way that I said or Mr. Wolf said is a lose-lose situation. If you say something recent, she'll either think that you are lying or would probably cheat, or that you like to f*** around. If you say something too long, there are a number of things she could think from that.
One thing my friend says to questions like that is, "Had sex...like...with a guy? Do you honestly think I'm gay? Wow, I'm hurt. Well, let me prove you that I'm straight" He used it recently, in a joking manner, and it worked.
OR
"I don't f*** and tell."
Add a sly little wink at the end for extra OOMF. Keeps her guessing too, and it dismisses the question.
Honestly, a question like that, not answered in a way that I said or Mr. Wolf said is a lose-lose situation. If you say something recent, she'll either think that you are lying or would probably cheat, or that you like to f*** around. If you say something too long, there are a number of things she could think from that.
One thing my friend says to questions like that is, "Had sex...like...with a guy? Do you honestly think I'm gay? Wow, I'm hurt. Well, let me prove you that I'm straight" He used it recently, in a joking manner, and it worked.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"I never understood keeping track of things like that. Why don't you tell me your last time and why you keep track?"
No reason not to throw her tests right back at her.
No reason not to throw her tests right back at her.
good responses. I know you hit it back to her but then she'll answer and how will you respond? for example when you hit her back with how long has it been for her and she says "a week ago...now what about you?" or "a few months ago" something like that. where you need to give an answer and can't just beat around the bush.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
That's why you tell her that you don't keep track of such things. This also includes how many women you've been with. Just tell her that straight away. If she persists, take it as a prelude of the sh1t tests to come from her.baurman said:
baurman said:
It's not about hitting back.. What you really doing is hitting her emotions, not her intellect.. Saying you had sex a week ago or a month ago is intellect..
"Had sex...like...with a guy? Do you honestly think I'm gay? Wow, I'm hurt. Well, let me prove you that I'm straight" is a great response by the way..
She might come back to that, well, no seriously.. Hmmm, I see you really want me.. Keep playing with her, with whatever you do.. Eventually things could get serious and she might want to know, to which you could say I don't keep track of things like this. But you gotta keep playing with her, because it's fun.. And by getting serious with her you are ruining the fun.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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you: "how bout you tell me, and let ME judge you based on your answer?"
That's the key. The right answer is whatever keeps things light and fun. I would probably say something like "a few hours ago, there were two of them but now it's all about you" or something like that. Or at least, when it comes up I'll say something like that.Mr. Wolf said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
And what do you do when she gets frustrated by the continuous deflections?reset said:That's the key. The right answer is whatever keeps things light and fun. I would probably say something like "a few hours ago, there were two of them but now it's all about you" or something like that. Or at least, when it comes up I'll say something like that.
I don't know... I'm not with a girl right now. When I'm posting I'm in the logical frame but when with a girl I'm in the fun, teasing, seductive frame and they don't go together.
My overall "message" would be, I'm not going to talk about past experiences, I don't expect you to either, but we're going to have some fun here and you can feel safe with me, and you're going to get all my attention and I'm going to make you feel like an excited little girl and we're both going to have some fun.
I would try to keep it light, throw it back at her in a playful way, while just trying to stay in the moment and make her feel comfortable and safe. I don't think anything I would say would be all that serious anyway--I don't think it's the words that matter so much, just your presence.
Edit-- I realize the OP was just about talking and everything I said was about already being in bed with the chick.
If we were just hanging out and talking, I wouldn't get serious at all. I'd just tease her and make fun of her. Or say whatever I felt like saying. While teasing her.
Otherwise you're entering her frame and all the fun is gone.
My overall "message" would be, I'm not going to talk about past experiences, I don't expect you to either, but we're going to have some fun here and you can feel safe with me, and you're going to get all my attention and I'm going to make you feel like an excited little girl and we're both going to have some fun.
I would try to keep it light, throw it back at her in a playful way, while just trying to stay in the moment and make her feel comfortable and safe. I don't think anything I would say would be all that serious anyway--I don't think it's the words that matter so much, just your presence.
Edit-- I realize the OP was just about talking and everything I said was about already being in bed with the chick.
If we were just hanging out and talking, I wouldn't get serious at all. I'd just tease her and make fun of her. Or say whatever I felt like saying. While teasing her.
Otherwise you're entering her frame and all the fun is gone.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Now that sounds like something that would work.reset said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia said:
Would that REALLY happen?
Frankly, I think that she just wants to know if you're safe and wouldn't tell.. Go figure. By the way, I like your response, it's not really getting serious, it just says that you are safe and won't go telling people.. Though, it doesn't offer any fun.. IMO.. Woman is asking that to probe if you won't tell anyone, rather than to know when you last did it.. Does she even care when you last did it, lol.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Prodding her to tell you why she believes keeping track of this wouldn't be fun? Oh you should try it, it's very amusing and gives you a bit of insight into the woman.Mr. Wolf said:
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Never had a girl ask me that question. I only date virgins so I am not that well-versed in tramp speak. A girl is pretty much ruined once she has had sex with another guy. They are built differently than men down there. Once they have done it their body is forever altered. I also have noticed how their entire attitude changes. Don't ever let some tramp tell you differently. Once a girl has had sex her value drops faster than Enron.