A girl I've been talking to recently has been giving me pretty low interest levels. I asked her to hang out last week and she gave me some BS excuse so I just said ok well let me know whenever is good for you. I've been ignoring her texts the past couple days and she just texted me saying she's free tomorrow night. It would probably be a good idea to say no cause she usually gives me some excuse when I ask her to hang out. But then again she's tough to get out so who knows when I'll get another chance like this. What do I do?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asked me to hang out. What do I do?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MusicMan450
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Simple. Hang out, but take control of the situation. Go where you want to go. She should be happy to hang out with you. Through being dominant and confident in her presence, you'll be able to gauge her interest, which, if you do it right, should go skyrocketing.
Remember, BE THE PRIZE, and don't slip into oneitis with this girl. If she shows low interest after tomorrow night, I'd next her, move on, and show her that her low interest really doesn't effect you, as it shouldn't.
*edit* And, like f283000 said, just have fun. I realize what I said sounds really serious, but as long as you're having fun, it'll happen by itself. Good luck, brah!
Remember, BE THE PRIZE, and don't slip into oneitis with this girl. If she shows low interest after tomorrow night, I'd next her, move on, and show her that her low interest really doesn't effect you, as it shouldn't.
*edit* And, like f283000 said, just have fun. I realize what I said sounds really serious, but as long as you're having fun, it'll happen by itself. Good luck, brah!
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Say no, this is obviously an AW. Show her you're not to be taken for granted and hold off a bit longer. Say "Can't tomorrow, but maybe some other time." and let her contact you again.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.