A girl I've been talking to recently has been giving me pretty low interest levels. I asked her to hang out last week and she gave me some BS excuse so I just said ok well let me know whenever is good for you. I've been ignoring her texts the past couple days and she just texted me saying she's free tomorrow night. It would probably be a good idea to say no cause she usually gives me some excuse when I ask her to hang out. But then again she's tough to get out so who knows when I'll get another chance like this. What do I do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asked me to hang out. What do I do?
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MusicMan450
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Simple. Hang out, but take control of the situation. Go where you want to go. She should be happy to hang out with you. Through being dominant and confident in her presence, you'll be able to gauge her interest, which, if you do it right, should go skyrocketing.
Remember, BE THE PRIZE, and don't slip into oneitis with this girl. If she shows low interest after tomorrow night, I'd next her, move on, and show her that her low interest really doesn't effect you, as it shouldn't.
*edit* And, like f283000 said, just have fun. I realize what I said sounds really serious, but as long as you're having fun, it'll happen by itself. Good luck, brah!
Remember, BE THE PRIZE, and don't slip into oneitis with this girl. If she shows low interest after tomorrow night, I'd next her, move on, and show her that her low interest really doesn't effect you, as it shouldn't.
*edit* And, like f283000 said, just have fun. I realize what I said sounds really serious, but as long as you're having fun, it'll happen by itself. Good luck, brah!
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Say no, this is obviously an AW. Show her you're not to be taken for granted and hold off a bit longer. Say "Can't tomorrow, but maybe some other time." and let her contact you again.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.