A girl I've been talking to recently has been giving me pretty low interest levels. I asked her to hang out last week and she gave me some BS excuse so I just said ok well let me know whenever is good for you. I've been ignoring her texts the past couple days and she just texted me saying she's free tomorrow night. It would probably be a good idea to say no cause she usually gives me some excuse when I ask her to hang out. But then again she's tough to get out so who knows when I'll get another chance like this. What do I do?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She asked me to hang out. What do I do?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MusicMan450
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Simple. Hang out, but take control of the situation. Go where you want to go. She should be happy to hang out with you. Through being dominant and confident in her presence, you'll be able to gauge her interest, which, if you do it right, should go skyrocketing.
Remember, BE THE PRIZE, and don't slip into oneitis with this girl. If she shows low interest after tomorrow night, I'd next her, move on, and show her that her low interest really doesn't effect you, as it shouldn't.
*edit* And, like f283000 said, just have fun. I realize what I said sounds really serious, but as long as you're having fun, it'll happen by itself. Good luck, brah!
Remember, BE THE PRIZE, and don't slip into oneitis with this girl. If she shows low interest after tomorrow night, I'd next her, move on, and show her that her low interest really doesn't effect you, as it shouldn't.
*edit* And, like f283000 said, just have fun. I realize what I said sounds really serious, but as long as you're having fun, it'll happen by itself. Good luck, brah!
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Say no, this is obviously an AW. Show her you're not to be taken for granted and hold off a bit longer. Say "Can't tomorrow, but maybe some other time." and let her contact you again.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.