ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Does anybody out there think sharing this site with naturals would help?
Why do you hide this site from people?
Why do you hide this site from people?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I see your point, there are intelligent people who would denounce the idea of somebody being so inept in society, that they would require a website.Originally posted by NHY
I'd say the main reason people like me would hide this site from other people including naturals is because the information contained on this site ( especailly some of Pooks articles ) are definately not for the general public, they would not get it at all and some would denounce it.
Some naturals would probably also laugh at people here saying stuff ' oh my god, you have to LEARN that? Thats so funny! '
Get my point?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Exactly.Originally posted by Gonzalo
Anybody who is meant to find this site (ie, guys who are actively looking for ways to improve with women), will find this site.
Other people are therefore not open to the idea of a site on the internet teaching what sosuave teaches, and will either treat it as a joke, or find it offensive, or think everyone here is some kind of nutcase.
If you think you can "help" others by pointing them in this direction, it usually won't come out right. If people really want to change, they will take the steps to gather information, and eventually come here. Others will just resent you for trying to help them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I was the mega dork when I first came here. Quite the opposite of awesome.dammit this site is awesome, lol. non-awesome people need not apply. thats that.
i was agreeing with u, actually. the whole drive thing. thats whats awesome about these people. when u have no direction or purpose to your life, u are non-awesome.Originally posted by djbr
I was the mega dork when I first came here. Quite the opposite of awesome.
But I had the urge to change, and that's the point.
People don't give real value to nothing that comes easily.