ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Does anybody out there think sharing this site with naturals would help?
Why do you hide this site from people?
Why do you hide this site from people?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I see your point, there are intelligent people who would denounce the idea of somebody being so inept in society, that they would require a website.Originally posted by NHY
I'd say the main reason people like me would hide this site from other people including naturals is because the information contained on this site ( especailly some of Pooks articles ) are definately not for the general public, they would not get it at all and some would denounce it.
Some naturals would probably also laugh at people here saying stuff ' oh my god, you have to LEARN that? Thats so funny! '
Get my point?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Exactly.Originally posted by Gonzalo
Anybody who is meant to find this site (ie, guys who are actively looking for ways to improve with women), will find this site.
Other people are therefore not open to the idea of a site on the internet teaching what sosuave teaches, and will either treat it as a joke, or find it offensive, or think everyone here is some kind of nutcase.
If you think you can "help" others by pointing them in this direction, it usually won't come out right. If people really want to change, they will take the steps to gather information, and eventually come here. Others will just resent you for trying to help them.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I was the mega dork when I first came here. Quite the opposite of awesome.dammit this site is awesome, lol. non-awesome people need not apply. thats that.
i was agreeing with u, actually. the whole drive thing. thats whats awesome about these people. when u have no direction or purpose to your life, u are non-awesome.Originally posted by djbr
I was the mega dork when I first came here. Quite the opposite of awesome.
But I had the urge to change, and that's the point.
People don't give real value to nothing that comes easily.