ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Does anybody out there think sharing this site with naturals would help?
Why do you hide this site from people?
Why do you hide this site from people?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I see your point, there are intelligent people who would denounce the idea of somebody being so inept in society, that they would require a website.Originally posted by NHY
I'd say the main reason people like me would hide this site from other people including naturals is because the information contained on this site ( especailly some of Pooks articles ) are definately not for the general public, they would not get it at all and some would denounce it.
Some naturals would probably also laugh at people here saying stuff ' oh my god, you have to LEARN that? Thats so funny! '
Get my point?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Exactly.Originally posted by Gonzalo
Anybody who is meant to find this site (ie, guys who are actively looking for ways to improve with women), will find this site.
Other people are therefore not open to the idea of a site on the internet teaching what sosuave teaches, and will either treat it as a joke, or find it offensive, or think everyone here is some kind of nutcase.
If you think you can "help" others by pointing them in this direction, it usually won't come out right. If people really want to change, they will take the steps to gather information, and eventually come here. Others will just resent you for trying to help them.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I was the mega dork when I first came here. Quite the opposite of awesome.dammit this site is awesome, lol. non-awesome people need not apply. thats that.
i was agreeing with u, actually. the whole drive thing. thats whats awesome about these people. when u have no direction or purpose to your life, u are non-awesome.Originally posted by djbr
I was the mega dork when I first came here. Quite the opposite of awesome.
But I had the urge to change, and that's the point.
People don't give real value to nothing that comes easily.