"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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DoubleBarrel

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Hey man,

I recently began thinking about where the majority of guys are hung-up on their path toward getting better with women... or getting what they want from this site, so I ask you this:

What's your current biggest challenge when it comes to succeeding with women and dating? What area are you currently frustrated with? Please be as specific as you can.

Thanks in advance!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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j0n24

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Getting a sugar momma for long term. I had one that went on for about a year and it is extremely eye opening when people throw money at you for no other reason than being able to make her feel good.

I just can't find any where I am at so it's a frustrating thing for me.
 
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Women can fvck a guy within 30 minutes of meeting him. Why do I have to wait when that guy didn't have to? The sooner you fvck her, the faster the Disney happy ending fades away.
 

TheWanderer88

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I'm still scared ****less of asking girls out. I seriously don't think there is anything more scary in the world.
 

Gunner26

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Think it's got to be making that first move with girls that I know. If they are complete randoms, I don't care and just go for it, but Christ if I know them, I usually wimp out.

When there is even a slight risk, I don't enjoy it. However I am working on it, and as they say, no risk, no reward, so here's to me taking more risks in the future and making that first move.

Gunner
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mr Wright

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I wouldn't say it's a major challenge but it's just to become more consistent with hotter girls. That will take practice and plenty of screwing up.
 

GS750

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My hurdle is cold approaching. One I get a rapport going I have no problem asking them out, its just the initial approach where I stumble the most. I chicken out too much.
 

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My problem is getting these girls to stop blowing my phone once I'm done with them.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheGambino

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Getting hb9s and hb10s in your bed by bein the most alpha you can be
 

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Getting to know women I really desire. For this I need to overcome approach anxiety. So I'm kind of really only in the beginning of a long way to go. I think a big issue is also to develop my personality; kill the beta in me ^^
 

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Banging girls is easy - have that part nailed. Its holding onto them that's hard when they start pushing for more than FWB/FB after a few months. Can't seem to open up at all or show a sweet side / give them reassurance.... Just makes me squirm with betaness even though I know it is essential for maintaining an LTR. I can't get the thought out of my head of always maintaining attraction and the chase instead of opening up a bit and building rapport. Whenever talks of feelings, reassurance, or future comes along I avoid them like the plague. I feel as though any nice gesture of mine that comes unwarranted/undeserved/and portrays reassurance because I feel like it will start a beta backslide. I've had 3 plates tell me I'm incapable of "love" and "missing out on sharing something real" "emotionally unavailable" in one form or another in 3 months lol and these are chicks that I was halfway interested in. Why am I completely hesitant to emotionally invest in even the slightest. Help?
 

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Sticking to my guns and not getting too comfortable/invested in a chick. Also keeping standards high when going through a dry patch. Suppose I could approach more but I feel I need to work on myself more first. Once you're happy with you no longer will you seek happiness from companionship/women/sex, it's just a bonus.
 

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my major challenge?

is I care enough to invite girls out, it happen not as often as I should and normally I don't care, that is of course 1vs1 the group setting is pretty ok
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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zekko

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Here lately I've been having trouble thinking of things to talk to them about. Which is strange, because I don't remember having that problem before. Part of it is maybe I'll be tired when I'm around them, so my energy isn't up and I don't feel like talking.

Truth is, I know that what you say isn't even that important, but I like to be fun and playful, and for whatever reason here lately I've been having trouble getting right into that.
 

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Cold approaching/opening sets.

This isn't a problem with women, it's more my own personal problem. I often rely too heavily on women making it easy for me. Sadly the hotter ones, HB8-10's, don't do this so it limits the quality of tang you'll get.

I guess my issue is confidence, how boringly common that is around here.
 

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Initially the approach. Now I don't really find them a challenge. I see them as equals.
 

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DoubleBarrel said:
Hey man,

I recently began thinking about where the majority of guys are hung-up on their path toward getting better with women... or getting what they want from this site, so I ask you this:

What's your current biggest challenge when it comes to succeeding with women and dating? What area are you currently frustrated with? Please be as specific as you can.

Thanks in advance!
I would say my biggest obstacle is going out and meeting women, not because I dislike going out, but because i've never really had a large social network, always had a small social circle, not many close friends, and one of the most common ways people meet their significant other or potential hook-ups is through their mutual friends, friend of a friend, social circle, etc., considering my social situation that's not really an option for me and hasn't been in the past, and I also have a very hard time telling if a girl is actually interested in me or she is just being nice and friendly
 

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Challenge ??? NON, I simply don't care enough anymore to make another person into a challenge. It either flows with ease or it doesn't. What's the point if it's a battle ? It's not like you're winning some kind of prize....

When ever I'm out I'll just be myself and speak to them as I am. Either like me for who I am or don't bother with me lol... I honestly couldn't care less....
 
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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