CGE333
Senior Don Juan
What is the proper way to shake a womans hand? I don't want to squeeze to tight. Also how long do you hold it?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Shaking hands?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
stormwriter
Senior Don Juan
Have you ever had a complete wussy guy shake your hand, and barely clench it? It's almost laughable. It's the wimpiest thing ever. Imagine you are a chick, and a guy does that wimpy-ass, dead fish flopping in your hand thing, while they shake your hand. Oh man, if i was a chick, i would think you are a complete, low confident WUSS.
On the other hand, have you ever had a guy shake your hand so goddamn hard that it hurts? Its like he's overcompensating for something. That pisses me off as well.
So, you probably don't want to emulate any of these techniques. If you are worried about how to shake a chicks hand, be cognizant of how it feels when people shake your hand. Is it too strong, or too soft?
I would definitely give a firm, not too strong grip. Remember, they are chicks, and they are wimps compared to us MEN. hahaha...
I'm more worried about cold or sweatiness when i'm shaking a chicks hand. Then again, i don't remember shaking chicks hands that much??? I've been on LOTS of dates, and i think its something that's not done very often. Maybe you are supposed to hug them instead.
What do you guys think?
(haha, this message board is funny. We analyze the weirdest sh1t....)
On the other hand, have you ever had a guy shake your hand so goddamn hard that it hurts? Its like he's overcompensating for something. That pisses me off as well.
So, you probably don't want to emulate any of these techniques. If you are worried about how to shake a chicks hand, be cognizant of how it feels when people shake your hand. Is it too strong, or too soft?
I would definitely give a firm, not too strong grip. Remember, they are chicks, and they are wimps compared to us MEN. hahaha...
I'm more worried about cold or sweatiness when i'm shaking a chicks hand. Then again, i don't remember shaking chicks hands that much??? I've been on LOTS of dates, and i think its something that's not done very often. Maybe you are supposed to hug them instead.
What do you guys think?
(haha, this message board is funny. We analyze the weirdest sh1t....)
silverdog
Don Juan
This sort of reminds me of the Seinfeld episode "the boyfriend" i think if you want to practice your handshake, practice it a few time's on a friend or relative and see how that goes with feedback, oh yeah, i agree, i have shaken hands with guy's with a reeeaaal weak hand shake, i swear, it feels like you can shatter all there bones with one sneeze.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
Thanks for the replies. Just to clarify I am talking in the context of when you first meet them or are introduced to them.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
It means she has glue on her hand.
What else could it possible be?
(Sarcasm off)
What else could it possible be?
(Sarcasm off)
Yotsuya-san
Senior Don Juan
This has been posted about in other threads. I'd suggest doing a search on how to shake hands with women. But I will restate my suggestion on what not to do which is: Do not use the corporate/buisness style handshake on women, unless you are at work.
izza
Master Don Juan
I don't find "corporate style" too bad. Anyway, yes please there are a million threads on this topic. I just posted a lengthy tip on this recently, so search for one of my posts within another thread. Cheers.
Izza
Please use the search thread more often.
Izza
Please use the search thread more often.
It's improper etiquette for a man to extend his hand to a woman first. Only shake their hand if they extend it to you. This goes back to the days of chivalry when a man would (pretend to) kiss a woman's hand. If you go over extending your hand first, she might think you're rude. Also, if you wait and they extend first, you know you are prequalified.CGE333 said:
Next, they want a firm handshake - firm enough to lead them through danger. Not wimpy, but not crushing either.
Hold it until they pull away, or for about 5 seconds, whichever comes first; and use the opportunity to make extended eye contact.