CGE333
Senior Don Juan
What is the proper way to shake a womans hand? I don't want to squeeze to tight. Also how long do you hold it?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Shaking hands?
- Thread starter CGE333
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
stormwriter
Senior Don Juan
Have you ever had a complete wussy guy shake your hand, and barely clench it? It's almost laughable. It's the wimpiest thing ever. Imagine you are a chick, and a guy does that wimpy-ass, dead fish flopping in your hand thing, while they shake your hand. Oh man, if i was a chick, i would think you are a complete, low confident WUSS.
On the other hand, have you ever had a guy shake your hand so goddamn hard that it hurts? Its like he's overcompensating for something. That pisses me off as well.
So, you probably don't want to emulate any of these techniques. If you are worried about how to shake a chicks hand, be cognizant of how it feels when people shake your hand. Is it too strong, or too soft?
I would definitely give a firm, not too strong grip. Remember, they are chicks, and they are wimps compared to us MEN. hahaha...
I'm more worried about cold or sweatiness when i'm shaking a chicks hand. Then again, i don't remember shaking chicks hands that much??? I've been on LOTS of dates, and i think its something that's not done very often. Maybe you are supposed to hug them instead.
What do you guys think?
(haha, this message board is funny. We analyze the weirdest sh1t....)
On the other hand, have you ever had a guy shake your hand so goddamn hard that it hurts? Its like he's overcompensating for something. That pisses me off as well.
So, you probably don't want to emulate any of these techniques. If you are worried about how to shake a chicks hand, be cognizant of how it feels when people shake your hand. Is it too strong, or too soft?
I would definitely give a firm, not too strong grip. Remember, they are chicks, and they are wimps compared to us MEN. hahaha...
I'm more worried about cold or sweatiness when i'm shaking a chicks hand. Then again, i don't remember shaking chicks hands that much??? I've been on LOTS of dates, and i think its something that's not done very often. Maybe you are supposed to hug them instead.
What do you guys think?
(haha, this message board is funny. We analyze the weirdest sh1t....)
silverdog
Don Juan
This sort of reminds me of the Seinfeld episode "the boyfriend" i think if you want to practice your handshake, practice it a few time's on a friend or relative and see how that goes with feedback, oh yeah, i agree, i have shaken hands with guy's with a reeeaaal weak hand shake, i swear, it feels like you can shatter all there bones with one sneeze.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
Thanks for the replies. Just to clarify I am talking in the context of when you first meet them or are introduced to them.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
It means she has glue on her hand.
What else could it possible be?
(Sarcasm off)
What else could it possible be?
(Sarcasm off)
Yotsuya-san
Senior Don Juan
This has been posted about in other threads. I'd suggest doing a search on how to shake hands with women. But I will restate my suggestion on what not to do which is: Do not use the corporate/buisness style handshake on women, unless you are at work.
izza
Master Don Juan
I don't find "corporate style" too bad. Anyway, yes please there are a million threads on this topic. I just posted a lengthy tip on this recently, so search for one of my posts within another thread. Cheers.
Izza
Please use the search thread more often.
Izza
Please use the search thread more often.
It's improper etiquette for a man to extend his hand to a woman first. Only shake their hand if they extend it to you. This goes back to the days of chivalry when a man would (pretend to) kiss a woman's hand. If you go over extending your hand first, she might think you're rude. Also, if you wait and they extend first, you know you are prequalified.CGE333 said:
Next, they want a firm handshake - firm enough to lead them through danger. Not wimpy, but not crushing either.
Hold it until they pull away, or for about 5 seconds, whichever comes first; and use the opportunity to make extended eye contact.