CGE333
Senior Don Juan
What is the proper way to shake a womans hand? I don't want to squeeze to tight. Also how long do you hold it?
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
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Shaking hands?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
stormwriter
Senior Don Juan
Have you ever had a complete wussy guy shake your hand, and barely clench it? It's almost laughable. It's the wimpiest thing ever. Imagine you are a chick, and a guy does that wimpy-ass, dead fish flopping in your hand thing, while they shake your hand. Oh man, if i was a chick, i would think you are a complete, low confident WUSS.
On the other hand, have you ever had a guy shake your hand so goddamn hard that it hurts? Its like he's overcompensating for something. That pisses me off as well.
So, you probably don't want to emulate any of these techniques. If you are worried about how to shake a chicks hand, be cognizant of how it feels when people shake your hand. Is it too strong, or too soft?
I would definitely give a firm, not too strong grip. Remember, they are chicks, and they are wimps compared to us MEN. hahaha...
I'm more worried about cold or sweatiness when i'm shaking a chicks hand. Then again, i don't remember shaking chicks hands that much??? I've been on LOTS of dates, and i think its something that's not done very often. Maybe you are supposed to hug them instead.
What do you guys think?
(haha, this message board is funny. We analyze the weirdest sh1t....)
On the other hand, have you ever had a guy shake your hand so goddamn hard that it hurts? Its like he's overcompensating for something. That pisses me off as well.
So, you probably don't want to emulate any of these techniques. If you are worried about how to shake a chicks hand, be cognizant of how it feels when people shake your hand. Is it too strong, or too soft?
I would definitely give a firm, not too strong grip. Remember, they are chicks, and they are wimps compared to us MEN. hahaha...
I'm more worried about cold or sweatiness when i'm shaking a chicks hand. Then again, i don't remember shaking chicks hands that much??? I've been on LOTS of dates, and i think its something that's not done very often. Maybe you are supposed to hug them instead.
What do you guys think?
(haha, this message board is funny. We analyze the weirdest sh1t....)
silverdog
Don Juan
This sort of reminds me of the Seinfeld episode "the boyfriend" i think if you want to practice your handshake, practice it a few time's on a friend or relative and see how that goes with feedback, oh yeah, i agree, i have shaken hands with guy's with a reeeaaal weak hand shake, i swear, it feels like you can shatter all there bones with one sneeze.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
Thanks for the replies. Just to clarify I am talking in the context of when you first meet them or are introduced to them.
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
It means she has glue on her hand.
What else could it possible be?
(Sarcasm off)
What else could it possible be?
(Sarcasm off)
Yotsuya-san
Senior Don Juan
This has been posted about in other threads. I'd suggest doing a search on how to shake hands with women. But I will restate my suggestion on what not to do which is: Do not use the corporate/buisness style handshake on women, unless you are at work.
izza
Master Don Juan
I don't find "corporate style" too bad. Anyway, yes please there are a million threads on this topic. I just posted a lengthy tip on this recently, so search for one of my posts within another thread. Cheers.
Izza
Please use the search thread more often.
Izza
Please use the search thread more often.
It's improper etiquette for a man to extend his hand to a woman first. Only shake their hand if they extend it to you. This goes back to the days of chivalry when a man would (pretend to) kiss a woman's hand. If you go over extending your hand first, she might think you're rude. Also, if you wait and they extend first, you know you are prequalified.CGE333 said:
Next, they want a firm handshake - firm enough to lead them through danger. Not wimpy, but not crushing either.
Hold it until they pull away, or for about 5 seconds, whichever comes first; and use the opportunity to make extended eye contact.