"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Shaking a woman's hand when you first meet her

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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always do it.
treat her like you would treat any one else, she is no diff. it is polite and you can shake it firmly yet gently and she'll notice...
its already a kino conformt.
 
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Basically what I do is kind of hold my hand at maybe like 70 degrees instead of straight up and down like you would with another guy. So their hand is kinda on top of yours in a way, I dunno why I do it I just do haha.

Has to be mildy firm, but not like when you shake hands with a dude where you both try to squeeze as hard as possible to see whos stronger haha...

I think you might be thinking about this to much? shes a person just like you so just do what you feel is appropriate.
 
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This isn't rocket science. Yes shake her hand, however be a bit gentler than when shaking hands with a guy (don't be flat, but don't try to squeeze her hand off). :cool:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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i would say big no unless she extends her hand first
 
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I'll shake a woman's hand out of the blue while she's sitting down and I'm walking by her. My handshake with a woman always is inacted by turning her hand over under my hand as if to kiss it but I never kiss it like in the movies etc. I just turn it over. Women Remember that and think it strange or unusual, and usually follow me around after that or remember me.
 
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Personally I never do it and think guys look retarded walking around a bar shaking womens hands. That's just my opinion tho
 
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Hmmm well from my experience most guys do it so it would follow that most guys who are successful do it, but so do the other 99.9% of guys who suck at life. Personally I find it to be a little too familiar/friendly and can think of better things to do with my hands while talking to a girl.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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When I shake a girls hand, my palm is completely facing straight down.

So the girl actually has to turn her palm facing up to shake mine. lol :cool:
 
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Frog X said:
Basically what I do is kind of hold my hand at maybe like 70 degrees instead of straight up and down like you would with another guy. So their hand is kinda on top of yours in a way, I dunno why I do it I just do haha.

Has to be mildy firm, but not like when you shake hands with a dude where you both try to squeeze as hard as possible to see whos stronger haha...

I think you might be thinking about this to much? shes a person just like you so just do what you feel is appropriate.
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That 70 degree angle you do? Stop it. Body language experts suggest that the person with the hand on top is the dominant one in the interaction.. subconsciously your giving them the control in the interaction.

Sorry if i went bill nye the science guy just a interesting fact i read..
 
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Do it. Don't give women that special treatment sh*t.

Extra points if you kiss it with no fear.
 
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cola said:
That 70 degree angle you do? Stop it. Body language experts suggest that the person with the hand on top is the dominant one in the interaction.. subconsciously your giving them the control in the interaction.

Sorry if i went bill nye the science guy just a interesting fact i read..
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I knew that would come up :rolleyes:

Oh noes she has subconcious control of the interaction! Eject!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I like to do the two handed handshake... shake her hand with my right and hold her wrist with my left. Also, as others have noted, it can't be some wussy limp wristed crap, shake her hand firmly, just don't squeeze too hard. Women like a firm handshake.
 
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I put her in a wrist lock and make her go down. Shows dominance.
 
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lol

I love it! We are discussing handshaking and the issue of who's dominant or not based on the hand holding comes up. :D
 
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