"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Shaking a woman's hand when you first meet her

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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always do it.
treat her like you would treat any one else, she is no diff. it is polite and you can shake it firmly yet gently and she'll notice...
its already a kino conformt.
 
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Basically what I do is kind of hold my hand at maybe like 70 degrees instead of straight up and down like you would with another guy. So their hand is kinda on top of yours in a way, I dunno why I do it I just do haha.

Has to be mildy firm, but not like when you shake hands with a dude where you both try to squeeze as hard as possible to see whos stronger haha...

I think you might be thinking about this to much? shes a person just like you so just do what you feel is appropriate.
 
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This isn't rocket science. Yes shake her hand, however be a bit gentler than when shaking hands with a guy (don't be flat, but don't try to squeeze her hand off). :cool:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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i would say big no unless she extends her hand first
 
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I'll shake a woman's hand out of the blue while she's sitting down and I'm walking by her. My handshake with a woman always is inacted by turning her hand over under my hand as if to kiss it but I never kiss it like in the movies etc. I just turn it over. Women Remember that and think it strange or unusual, and usually follow me around after that or remember me.
 
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Personally I never do it and think guys look retarded walking around a bar shaking womens hands. That's just my opinion tho
 
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Hmmm well from my experience most guys do it so it would follow that most guys who are successful do it, but so do the other 99.9% of guys who suck at life. Personally I find it to be a little too familiar/friendly and can think of better things to do with my hands while talking to a girl.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When I shake a girls hand, my palm is completely facing straight down.

So the girl actually has to turn her palm facing up to shake mine. lol :cool:
 
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Frog X said:
Basically what I do is kind of hold my hand at maybe like 70 degrees instead of straight up and down like you would with another guy. So their hand is kinda on top of yours in a way, I dunno why I do it I just do haha.

Has to be mildy firm, but not like when you shake hands with a dude where you both try to squeeze as hard as possible to see whos stronger haha...

I think you might be thinking about this to much? shes a person just like you so just do what you feel is appropriate.
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That 70 degree angle you do? Stop it. Body language experts suggest that the person with the hand on top is the dominant one in the interaction.. subconsciously your giving them the control in the interaction.

Sorry if i went bill nye the science guy just a interesting fact i read..
 
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Do it. Don't give women that special treatment sh*t.

Extra points if you kiss it with no fear.
 
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cola said:
That 70 degree angle you do? Stop it. Body language experts suggest that the person with the hand on top is the dominant one in the interaction.. subconsciously your giving them the control in the interaction.

Sorry if i went bill nye the science guy just a interesting fact i read..
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I knew that would come up :rolleyes:

Oh noes she has subconcious control of the interaction! Eject!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I like to do the two handed handshake... shake her hand with my right and hold her wrist with my left. Also, as others have noted, it can't be some wussy limp wristed crap, shake her hand firmly, just don't squeeze too hard. Women like a firm handshake.
 
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I put her in a wrist lock and make her go down. Shows dominance.
 
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lol

I love it! We are discussing handshaking and the issue of who's dominant or not based on the hand holding comes up. :D
 
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