shagnscoob
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that scheme except starting over with the weights at 95 right?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
shagnscoob said:Well Espi I think if you took the weights that you think you lift for squats and deads and tried to do them on the same day then yeah you would for sure be in trouble. But since I'm just started I don't have any concept of what my maxes ae, so I think it would be alright to do both with weights much lighter than my max but still work me really hard because of the 3 work sets involved. In all honesty the deads seem to work my back far more than my legs, and squats vice versa.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Well also taking them off the same day would mean adding a whole day into my routine because neither would fit in Chest/Tris day... I'd like to note that this routine is the EXACT routine that is one of Iron Addict's top 5 favorite routines.Skilla_Staz said:Thats why you keep adding weight until it's tough. I would also recommend against Deads/Squats in the same routine. Go as heavy as you can on both.You're not doing yourself any good lollygagging with light weights just so you can "find your max". Get your form down, then pack on the pounds my friend.
Hm yeah, it's good to see you're putting more fat in your diet, because fats control hormones in your body, so a decent supply of fats = lots of good hormones = high sex drive = horny buggerI tried adding more fat into my diet by dropping 3-4 tablespoons of Olive Oil each day...
My sex drive is still nowhere. I haven't masturbated in weeks, I'm having sex less than once a week, and I don't even feel horny ever. It's outrageous. Can I get some bloodwork done to see whats goin on?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.