"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Shady Number Situation

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I would do a search on this, but I'm not even sure what to search, since this is pretty weird, it's not really date related, but kind of is too, either way, it's pretty weird, and I've never dealt with this kind of judgement before.......

At work the other day, I was starting to make friends with a client, to whom the subject got onto how new I was to the location and it turns out by coincidence me and his daughter just moved into the same apartments, now he showed me a picture, she's between an 8 or a 9 on a 10 scale, said it was not to hook us up necessarily, and said that he asked her if it was okay to give me her number, I agreed to take it, but I'm wondering if I should actually call, it might be fun, but on the other hand..........

This lady has never seen me before in her life as far as I know, and there's no telling she'll remember her dad mentioned me if I call up this Friday if I feel like going out and doing something new. But there is always that small risk that I could get into trouble, it's not like she told me the number directly. Nothing too important though, since I already have some other chicka's I've been talking to anyway, but I figured it'd be interesting to hear a DJ view on this.

The pointed questions being............

- Should I take a risk of her not remembering me being mentioned, and maybe expand my social circle some if all goes well. I'm not so much worried about rejection as the questions and legal reprecussions, becuase hey, people forget.

- Or, this is too shady and should be left alone, I don't want to come across as some loon, for all she knows I'm a greasy balding fat guy in his momma's basement.

I dunno, this is the first time I've dealt with "phone tag", ive done LDR's, I've done Internet Dating, and I've dealt with some weird set-up's in my full-blown-AFC days, but this is weird beyond recognition to me. Is it worth the challenge and potential learning experience, or are the costs of the risk too high?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You say she's your neighbor and you know how she looks,well "accidentally" meet her around the neighborhood and do as you would do an cold-approach..then say "I know you from somewhere" and then "your dad.." etc...If she does not show interest before "i know you..." or you find out you don't really like her too next her,throw away the # and move on.
 

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Wow, that was fast.

Funny part is I hardly remember how she looks, all I really remember is her hair and that she was around an 8-9 (though I understand that photos are never as telling as "in-the-flesh" is). I was actually meaning to put that idea in there, though mine was just to let fate take it's course and if we never meet up somewhat, oh well, there's others. Still quite a weird situation that's for sure.
 

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I know for sure an instance a friend of mine was trying to hook up a girl with another friend of mine,now friend 2 did not know how she looked in flesh and the pic friend 1 had was overrating her, from 4 she looked a 7 (b&w face only shot)
 

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GloriouslyInsane said:
I know for sure an instance a friend of mine was trying to hook up a girl with another friend of mine,now friend 2 did not know how she looked in flesh and the pic friend 1 had was overrating her, from 4 she looked a 7 (b&w face only shot)
What you described was exactly how I found this site, had a blind date, fell for a dud, got screwed around, came here, realized that the problem was the girls I was dating and not me. I'm a little iffy of "set ups" and blind dates because of that very fact alone. It's like buying a musical instrument without playing it first, more than likely you'll end up with a real dud on your hands.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You should always see the possibilities of everything,going to a "blind-date" does not mean that automatically you have to hook up with that girl,she may have some hot friends. :D
 

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Lol, I get your point....

Learning from her though, I got an 8/10 the next go around just by talking, was an LTR, but felt more like a f***buddy relationship since that's mostly all we did, and that was about 3 months after I found this site, which would be about 3-4 years ago. Actually, that's kind of what I was thinking about hooking up with this "Apartment chick", because if not her, I could meet some new friends of hers or even date one of em', which is a good thing, since I'm pretty much starting over from a clean slate now. New home (FIRST home), new life, lovin it woman or not.
 
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