So i did a lot of drugs in my life and probably not a great memory to begin with haha but I'm wondering if this is a pro or con with a woman. Like if I'm dating a couple girls and I ask them stuff they've already told me, does that annoy them and they think I just don't care about them? Or would that be attractive because it shows my low interest level or not caring to remember everything going on with them, and therefore a challenge to them?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
sh*tty memory.. good or bad?
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I'd say it's a con, when I'm dating muliple womam I tend to repeat myself and the girls tell me you already told me that. If you start reading books your memory will get better. There are also guides on the internet and probably right here on how to successfully date multiple women.
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It's bad at least 90% of the time, probably more. You can be low-interest and not be forgetting things.jurry said:
If it's a girl you're steady with it's bad 100% of the time.
I smoke a lot of weed and have an awful memory. It ****s with my work a bit, but it's really ****ed some interactions with women. This barista I'm friends with came over yesterday and asked if I remembered her upcoming bday party. I double booked and this chick, who is just a friend, had a genuine look of disgust on her face (cuz she had apparently told me like 2 days ago and I didn't remember). Women do NOT like that ****. I'm certain.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Back in the olden days, I used to use a big pda to track my dates and their info. Now, you kids have a handy smart phone. Use it to track info specific to the girl. Code your dates with something that looks like a business meeting. Use different colors for different girls.