So i did a lot of drugs in my life and probably not a great memory to begin with haha but I'm wondering if this is a pro or con with a woman. Like if I'm dating a couple girls and I ask them stuff they've already told me, does that annoy them and they think I just don't care about them? Or would that be attractive because it shows my low interest level or not caring to remember everything going on with them, and therefore a challenge to them?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
sh*tty memory.. good or bad?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'd say it's a con, when I'm dating muliple womam I tend to repeat myself and the girls tell me you already told me that. If you start reading books your memory will get better. There are also guides on the internet and probably right here on how to successfully date multiple women.
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It's bad at least 90% of the time, probably more. You can be low-interest and not be forgetting things.jurry said:
If it's a girl you're steady with it's bad 100% of the time.
I smoke a lot of weed and have an awful memory. It ****s with my work a bit, but it's really ****ed some interactions with women. This barista I'm friends with came over yesterday and asked if I remembered her upcoming bday party. I double booked and this chick, who is just a friend, had a genuine look of disgust on her face (cuz she had apparently told me like 2 days ago and I didn't remember). Women do NOT like that ****. I'm certain.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Back in the olden days, I used to use a big pda to track my dates and their info. Now, you kids have a handy smart phone. Use it to track info specific to the girl. Code your dates with something that looks like a business meeting. Use different colors for different girls.