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Sexual escalation: natural or planned?

maverickbh

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Hi guys,

Do you ever kiss a girl after the first date even if she didn't turn you on that much just because it's what you gotta do at the end of a date? Do you still go for sex for the sake of the experience even if you don't desire the girl that much?

I don't. If I kiss a girl, I mean it. If I have sex with a girl, I merely enact my sexual attraction -- I don't plan it, I just naturally do it. I can't force myself to kiss a girl I didn't feel that attracted to, but I do feel the burn of the "opportunity cost." I feel like I could have just used her as practice.

What do you guys think: to have all sexual escalations be authentic, or have to some girls just for sexual release and practice? Do you recommend loosening standards a bit for the sake of more experience?
 

devilkingx2

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I feel like if you don't kiss her you've wasted time and money by going on a date. And if I wasn't gonna go for sex in the end I wouldn't have bothered asking her out at all.
 

GioWolf

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There is a possibility she might be awesome in bed which may increase your attraction towards her. Can’t hurt to find out if she’s giving you IOI’s.
 

RickTheToad

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Hi guys,

Do you ever kiss a girl after the first date even if she didn't turn you on that much just because it's what you gotta do at the end of a date? Do you still go for sex for the sake of the experience even if you don't desire the girl that much?

I don't. If I kiss a girl, I mean it. If I have sex with a girl, I merely enact my sexual attraction -- I don't plan it, I just naturally do it. I can't force myself to kiss a girl I didn't feel that attracted to, but I do feel the burn of the "opportunity cost." I feel like I could have just used her as practice.

What do you guys think: to have all sexual escalations be authentic, or have to some girls just for sexual release and practice? Do you recommend loosening standards a bit for the sake of more experience?
You usually have to make the move. Much easier though when not in public. However, if you can get your chair or a booth in the back, your aces. I met a lady for a first date, we were kissing when we went to the second bar. In the back, my hands were between her legs and she was as wet as Niagara Falls. You need to lead. Be the leader.
 

nicksaiz65

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You usually have to make the move. Much easier though when not in public. However, if you can get your chair or a booth in the back, your aces. I met a lady for a first date, we were kissing when we went to the second bar. In the back, my hands were between her legs and she was as wet as Niagara Falls. You need to lead. Be the leader.
Do you always go for sex at the end of a first date Rick? This is something I've been thinking about lately
 

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Do you always go for sex at the end of a first date Rick? This is something I've been thinking about lately
Rarely anymore. 10 years ago, sure. When I was on the dating scene a few months ago, if I wanted to f uck her, I'd prime her up on the first meet, the follow up on the second date with sex. I also use the three date rule, it's important. I will go for four dates if we do something on the second or third. Until we f uck, drinks and a Groupon activity. Some good cheap ones are mini-golf, axe throwing, feeding the ducks (loaf of sale bread, $0.99 - no sales tax), swimming, tennis, etc. Anything cheap and we can learn about each other. Second date, activity, then, if all goes well, drinks. Third date, I cook at my place. At minimum, so playing around and she's naked.
 

KindredSpiritzz

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if im not attracted to them after a first date they only get a hug good bye. If im attracted to them then im going for sex even if I think she isn't relationship material. So far im 6 out of 12 on first date sex and 8 out of 12 by the 2nd date.
Finding one i want to get serious with is much more difficult tho
 
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Hi guys,

Do you ever kiss a girl after the first date even if she didn't turn you on that much just because it's what you gotta do at the end of a date? Do you still go for sex for the sake of the experience even if you don't desire the girl that much?

I don't. If I kiss a girl, I mean it. If I have sex with a girl, I merely enact my sexual attraction -- I don't plan it, I just naturally do it. I can't force myself to kiss a girl I didn't feel that attracted to, but I do feel the burn of the "opportunity cost." I feel like I could have just used her as practice.

What do you guys think: to have all sexual escalations be authentic, or have to some girls just for sexual release and practice? Do you recommend loosening standards a bit for the sake of more experience?

A couple thing here bud:

1) I don't principally disagree with your "I want to be natural" vibe.

2) However, personally just as a matter of respect for the process I almost always push for the next step. regardless of how I "feel in the moment"

3) This can be a high risk strategy if done wrong though. you HAVE TO be highly socially aware.

4) Also think of it this way.
4.1) If you do escalate and she enjoys it shell probably go with it.
4.2) if you do escalate and she doesnt want it shell stop you.
4.3) if you dont escalate and she does want you to you look like a little *****.
4.4)if you dont escalate and she doesnt want you to youve made at best 0 impact positively or negatively.

Cheers!
 

Alvafe

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Hi guys,

Do you ever kiss a girl after the first date even if she didn't turn you on that much just because it's what you gotta do at the end of a date? Do you still go for sex for the sake of the experience even if you don't desire the girl that much?

I don't. If I kiss a girl, I mean it. If I have sex with a girl, I merely enact my sexual attraction -- I don't plan it, I just naturally do it. I can't force myself to kiss a girl I didn't feel that attracted to, but I do feel the burn of the "opportunity cost." I feel like I could have just used her as practice.

What do you guys think: to have all sexual escalations be authentic, or have to some girls just for sexual release and practice? Do you recommend loosening standards a bit for the sake of more experience?
share a little experience here.

when I was younger I wouldn't, even when I know the girl was into me I would not do anything, why? I though it was a waste of time, then after sometime I notice one thing I was lacking experience, something I could easily gather if I made the moves on said girls.


so if you had the oportunity do so, the very least you will start to read woman intent
 
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