Soma
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Getting a second helping of vaginal sex is vastly different from masturbating with your hand. What you don't understand about that is beyond me.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sex/Penis Problem? Worrying... Please read.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Desdinova
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Getting a second helping of vaginal sex is vastly different from masturbating with your hand. What you don't understand about that is beyond me.
The only difference is you're using your hand instead of a wet *****. If you can successfully masturbate without it going limp on you, it's all in your head.
The only difference is you're using your hand instead of a wet *****. If you can successfully masturbate without it going limp on you, it's all in your head.
Soma
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You aren't really THAT clueless are you?
strong like bull
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soma is right on the mark. why disagree with him?
imo masturbation is alright if youre ALREADY performing 100% in bed. no limp **** and no performance anxiety. if youre already getting lots of ***** and doing your duty, its no big deal to squeeze one out every now and again.
its a much different story, however, when the only time you get a full hard-on is when youre downloading jenna jameson flicks and whacking off to airbrushed supermodel girls on the internet. if THAT is the case, you need to do as they said and stop eating all the appetizers before your dinner is served.
read this post on Sexuality Projection and also Jvesti's The Introduction of "T" Theory/Natural Game. they elaborate on what soma has said here.
enjoy.
-SLB
imo masturbation is alright if youre ALREADY performing 100% in bed. no limp **** and no performance anxiety. if youre already getting lots of ***** and doing your duty, its no big deal to squeeze one out every now and again.
its a much different story, however, when the only time you get a full hard-on is when youre downloading jenna jameson flicks and whacking off to airbrushed supermodel girls on the internet. if THAT is the case, you need to do as they said and stop eating all the appetizers before your dinner is served.
read this post on Sexuality Projection and also Jvesti's The Introduction of "T" Theory/Natural Game. they elaborate on what soma has said here.
enjoy.
-SLB
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
masturbate as much as you like, next time you're about to have sex with her, just relax you'll be absolutely fine.
if worst comes to worst, make a joke to her about how you can get it up on your own, but when you see her you lose it, and that she should try extra hard this time.
if worst comes to worst, make a joke to her about how you can get it up on your own, but when you see her you lose it, and that she should try extra hard this time.
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Thank you for filling me in, SLB!
Okay, the whole "Embrace Your Testosterone" thing and the subconscious connection of sex. Personally, I've never bought this concept. Also, lack of sexual activity of any kind is going to cause frustration. Frustration leads to stress and will fvck with your emotions.
Also, depriving yourself of sexual activity is going to lead to desperation if it's bad enough. I was raised in a religion that forbid masturbation and sex before marriage. Dating and marriage was also forbidden before the age of 20. I began noticing a trend in the religion where guys and girls end up married within months because of their desperation to relieve their sexual frustration. Most have ended up unhappily married because they married out of desperation to relieve their sexual frustrations.
As you can guess, I left the religion.
Okay, the whole "Embrace Your Testosterone" thing and the subconscious connection of sex. Personally, I've never bought this concept. Also, lack of sexual activity of any kind is going to cause frustration. Frustration leads to stress and will fvck with your emotions.
Also, depriving yourself of sexual activity is going to lead to desperation if it's bad enough. I was raised in a religion that forbid masturbation and sex before marriage. Dating and marriage was also forbidden before the age of 20. I began noticing a trend in the religion where guys and girls end up married within months because of their desperation to relieve their sexual frustration. Most have ended up unhappily married because they married out of desperation to relieve their sexual frustrations.
As you can guess, I left the religion.
if you havent experienced much sexual activity the best thing IS to masturbate.
masturbate all the time, get used to your body and you'll be fine.
if masturbating a lot made you unable to get an erection in bed then i would be screwed.
masturbate all the time, get used to your body and you'll be fine.
if masturbating a lot made you unable to get an erection in bed then i would be screwed.
Alen-Delon
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Take few shots of some hard shyt like vodka or Rum or something trust me that shyt works like magic. At least it worked for me!
peace
peace
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Haha, that phrase made me crack up.
Listen to us son, quit jackin off. It works wonders.
Screw that. Learn to make you women orgasm off the wall. You have hardly any expeirence, so what, you'll gain it with her. I know how to give it everytime and the problem isnt that you masterbate too much and you need to quit like everyone is saying, that aint the problem, never has for me. you'll learn so dont take it out on yourself. everytime i get in the bed with my girl, i make sure she gets done, whether that is with sex or me using my tongue, and she loves them both.
Desdinova
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I enjoy keeping her guessing in the bedroom. Sometimes we'll do it the same way for a few days, and then I'll throw something completely different or new. I also experiment with the subject of orgasm itself. Most of the time, we'll both have one. However, once in a while I'll give her a nice orgasm to help her get to sleep and I'll go without one. Sometimes, I'll have one and not give her one. Believe it or not, this creates excitement in the bedroom since she never really knows what to expect when we're both in there.
Im abit confused about masturbation. Shall i stop? or not? I get both suggestions and I really dont know what to do.
I will head for the "imo masturbation is alright if youre ALREADY performing 100% in bed. no limp **** and no performance anxiety. if youre already getting lots of ***** and doing your duty, its no big deal to squeeze one out every now and again.
" suggestion of Strong_like_bull.
What I surely now know is that I'll stop watching porn, someone said i had a blueprint in my mind of video images, and that could made me less excited about the actual thing.
Hope PC muscle does help my d1ck to stay erected.
I will head for the "imo masturbation is alright if youre ALREADY performing 100% in bed. no limp **** and no performance anxiety. if youre already getting lots of ***** and doing your duty, its no big deal to squeeze one out every now and again.
" suggestion of Strong_like_bull.
What I surely now know is that I'll stop watching porn, someone said i had a blueprint in my mind of video images, and that could made me less excited about the actual thing.
Hope PC muscle does help my d1ck to stay erected.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think most of my confusions and questions are answered by Ojete, in his "Sexuality Projection" Thread.
Read below.
Ways to increase your sexual desire
A. It has always been said: stop the masturbation, cut it off. Get your sexual gratification (The roots) from the real sex experience. If you are only jacking off, you are fooling your unconcious mind to make it think "that masturbation is real sex". You have probably fooled your unconcious mind for 10+ years. Stop it right now. Get the real sex... let your mind meet the real sexual gratification... then it will be easier to get it. When you stop masturbating you are more active, you will approach more women, and you will see them as your only source of real sex gratification, not your hand. Really, it is ESSENTIAL: Force yourself not to masturbate until you fill your sexual desire with The roots: The REAL sex with Women bodies. That way you unconcious mind will be educated in a few months... after a few sexual encounters... your new mind will be educated to The Roots programming, not the social and media 'wussification' trash.
B. Start doing excercise. Lift wegihts. Lose weight if you are overweight. It will probably be the hardest point to accomplish but believe me, the rewards will be many to mention them. Some of the benefits are: lots of confidence, you feel desired, in better health, more stamina, more physical attention from HBs, and overall a high self-esteem because there will be less resistance from the HB when you are ready the sex them (when you get to The roots).
C. Eliminate the porno. That's basic for point A. The sexual desire must come from real girls, real women and your fetishes and lusts will be more reachable and intense when you feel them with real women. After you have avoided masturbation for 1-2 weeks, the kino will come easier... and you will enjoy it more. Practice with girl friends.. new girls you meet, every girl. You will start to feel the sexual enjoyment of The Roots.
D. Some foods and supplements help: fish, oysters, chocolate and mint are high afrodisiacs. Consider ginseng, it also stimulates your inmune system and overall sexual stamina. Also take some vitamins for endurance.
C. Start doing the Kegels exercises each morning, or before bed. 50 of them. They will also improve your sexual stamina. ¿Don't know what a kegel is? they are also commonly called 'PC muscle exercises', make a google search with those topics and you will find plenty of information on how to do them. It is easy and won't take you too much time, no more than 15 mins each day.
D. The power of visualization: visualize everytning you want, the kind of women you want to bang, and visualize yourself baning some girl friend of yours, or some girl from your class... while she's talking to you, o while she's talking with somebody... make sure, however, not to stare for an eternity because you will appear as a pervert. Just try to visualize and find each sexual side to girls you see. Look for their hot and provocative attitudes and physical parts. It is good if you talk about it with your friends... talk sexually about girls.. not in a jerk way.. but about what turns you on. You will be more confortable about expressing your sexuality when talking about it with close friends. Start doing it.
E. Music helps. Listen to some relaxing and sexy tunes when in company of your girls. Feel the desire, and get used to evoque it with the aid of music. It helps.
F. If you ever feel intense and inmense desire to masturbate DON'T DO IT until you get the sex from real women o real women hands haha. Wait... but you can use masturbation at your advantage: in the morning, one a week, you can stroke your penis a little, get sexually aroused and stop... you will be feeling very sexual during the res of the day. Try it. Don't question it, try it!! And remember, DO NOT EJACULATE unless it is on a girls body or inside it haha.
G. Culturize yourself sexually. Read books about it, and start discussing it. Some friends and girls will say you are a 'horny' or pervert guy. Well, guess what, you are a lot ahead of them in your road to The Roots. Don't listen to it. Enjoy it. These girls will feel inside 'they can get some of you because you are a horny guy who is not afraid of his sexuality'. Some books i recommend are "The Illustrated Kamasutra", "When a man makes love to a woman (unlimited stamina and multiple orgasms)" by David Michaels, and "How to make love all night (and Drive a Woman wild)" by Barbara Keesling
Read below.
Ways to increase your sexual desire
A. It has always been said: stop the masturbation, cut it off. Get your sexual gratification (The roots) from the real sex experience. If you are only jacking off, you are fooling your unconcious mind to make it think "that masturbation is real sex". You have probably fooled your unconcious mind for 10+ years. Stop it right now. Get the real sex... let your mind meet the real sexual gratification... then it will be easier to get it. When you stop masturbating you are more active, you will approach more women, and you will see them as your only source of real sex gratification, not your hand. Really, it is ESSENTIAL: Force yourself not to masturbate until you fill your sexual desire with The roots: The REAL sex with Women bodies. That way you unconcious mind will be educated in a few months... after a few sexual encounters... your new mind will be educated to The Roots programming, not the social and media 'wussification' trash.
B. Start doing excercise. Lift wegihts. Lose weight if you are overweight. It will probably be the hardest point to accomplish but believe me, the rewards will be many to mention them. Some of the benefits are: lots of confidence, you feel desired, in better health, more stamina, more physical attention from HBs, and overall a high self-esteem because there will be less resistance from the HB when you are ready the sex them (when you get to The roots).
C. Eliminate the porno. That's basic for point A. The sexual desire must come from real girls, real women and your fetishes and lusts will be more reachable and intense when you feel them with real women. After you have avoided masturbation for 1-2 weeks, the kino will come easier... and you will enjoy it more. Practice with girl friends.. new girls you meet, every girl. You will start to feel the sexual enjoyment of The Roots.
D. Some foods and supplements help: fish, oysters, chocolate and mint are high afrodisiacs. Consider ginseng, it also stimulates your inmune system and overall sexual stamina. Also take some vitamins for endurance.
C. Start doing the Kegels exercises each morning, or before bed. 50 of them. They will also improve your sexual stamina. ¿Don't know what a kegel is? they are also commonly called 'PC muscle exercises', make a google search with those topics and you will find plenty of information on how to do them. It is easy and won't take you too much time, no more than 15 mins each day.
D. The power of visualization: visualize everytning you want, the kind of women you want to bang, and visualize yourself baning some girl friend of yours, or some girl from your class... while she's talking to you, o while she's talking with somebody... make sure, however, not to stare for an eternity because you will appear as a pervert. Just try to visualize and find each sexual side to girls you see. Look for their hot and provocative attitudes and physical parts. It is good if you talk about it with your friends... talk sexually about girls.. not in a jerk way.. but about what turns you on. You will be more confortable about expressing your sexuality when talking about it with close friends. Start doing it.
E. Music helps. Listen to some relaxing and sexy tunes when in company of your girls. Feel the desire, and get used to evoque it with the aid of music. It helps.
F. If you ever feel intense and inmense desire to masturbate DON'T DO IT until you get the sex from real women o real women hands haha. Wait... but you can use masturbation at your advantage: in the morning, one a week, you can stroke your penis a little, get sexually aroused and stop... you will be feeling very sexual during the res of the day. Try it. Don't question it, try it!! And remember, DO NOT EJACULATE unless it is on a girls body or inside it haha.
G. Culturize yourself sexually. Read books about it, and start discussing it. Some friends and girls will say you are a 'horny' or pervert guy. Well, guess what, you are a lot ahead of them in your road to The Roots. Don't listen to it. Enjoy it. These girls will feel inside 'they can get some of you because you are a horny guy who is not afraid of his sexuality'. Some books i recommend are "The Illustrated Kamasutra", "When a man makes love to a woman (unlimited stamina and multiple orgasms)" by David Michaels, and "How to make love all night (and Drive a Woman wild)" by Barbara Keesling
FreeStyleZ
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I think I know the problem here. Get off all anti depressants and SSRI's... it will do the trick.
Do some PC exercises.. Kegal and Reverse Kegels... I just started to do 500 kegels a night b,c my erection quality is going down just a little. I do penis enlargement so it pretty much makes it less sensitive a bit.
Also about the exercise thing.. i heard if u lift weights focusing on a group of muscles it can increase testosterone levels. You may have low testosterone or something.
Also about the exercise thing.. i heard if u lift weights focusing on a group of muscles it can increase testosterone levels. You may have low testosterone or something.
Hey!
I know from EXPERIENCE it's BOTH mind AND masturbating if your in good health and sleep enough etc.
The mind thing:
Your girl is new, you might be still little nervous about it or just not comfortable enough. If you doubt this, I don't be surpriced. I've had this problem even I felt totally comfortable and relaxed.
It has gone away after having sex few times with the same girl.
The masturbation:
You don't have to TOTALLY quit masturbating. But even a guy like Ron Jeremy (a famous male porn star) says he has to "rest" two days before sex to get his best erections. Otherwise, he might go limp or not so hard. I've experienced it too.. If I have recently masturbated, my **** gets hard just like once or twice during the making out or just entering but it will lose hardness or goes totally limp by the lack of the pressure. NO MATTER HOW HOT THE WOMAN IS. You don't have to quit it totally, but I recommend you experience leaving it for couple of weeks just for experiment. To get known yourself better.
People are different. I guess some guys aren't affected by masturbation... or some of those guys here are just virgins who don't know what they talk about.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.