"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RickHunt

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Hi. Don't know if this is the right place to post this? But hey.
When I engage in intimate physical contact with a girl (hugging or rubbing up against her) I get an erection easily. When I start getting closer to having sex, my boner subsides. I can be fingering her and rubbing her breasts but just cant get a boner at the time when I really need one. She can be jerking me off and I'm still flaccid (pretty embarrassing). As I mentioned, when the clothes are on I have no issue. Any tips or ways around this annoying problem? Is it that I need to get more comfortable with the girl first? Thanks.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dgwizdal

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c0ck pills from the gas station. Just your nerves - these wont fail you.
 

JohnChops

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its not low ****ing T, im 20 years old and this happened with my current GF. couldnt get hard. it was a mind game, its because you are nervous! just relax, your test is fine.
 

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Yep. I've had this issue when I was nervous/anxious with a new girl. When your clothes are on there is no expectation for you to perform (hence less anxiety). If you try to force yourself to get an erection on demand, it may backfire.

Next time, just try to keep yourself mentally calm & relaxed during foreplay. Just try to enjoy it without pressuring yourself (difficult I know). Do what you have to do to keep your hard on; whether its her or you doing the stroking, and/or taking your time. As soon as she's wet enough and you're at least hard enough to stick it in without folding, do so, and the sensation will keep you going. After you get comfortable with the girl then it won't be a problem. Good luck
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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VikingKing

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Stop fapping. Porn fvcks ur brain up in the same way drugs, alcohol, or a bdp does.

Its in your head. for some reason you are getting to nervous. Find the source of the problem and eliminate it.
 

Dgwizdal

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Dgwizdal said:
c0ck pills from the gas station. Just your nerves - these wont fail you.
Again - Do not hesitate to get libido/ d!ck pills. Also have her dirty talk and you c0ck will be rock hard. Stop beating off too
 

lanba

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noobolgy said:
Stop fapping. Porn fvcks ur brain up in the same way drugs, alcohol, or a bdp does.

Its in your head. for some reason you are getting to nervous. Find the source of the problem and eliminate it.
bdp = Big **** Pelican?
 

RagingBalls

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Bang her with your clothes on :D

just unzip your pants and attack the poon. Case solved :up:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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VladPatton

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Do a reboot, man. Eliminate any sexual stimulus from your routine. No porn, no fap for let's say 5-7 days before you see her and you get nasty. It should work then. You'll be pretty charged up and ready to stick her good. Other than that, it is some psychological issue you need to address.
 

JohnChops

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all those porn is bad for you crap are for the guys who jerk it 10 times a day. doing it once or twice a week will have no ill effect on your sexual experience.
its not a silver bullet.
 

Jair213

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noobolgy said:
Stop fapping. Porn fvcks ur brain up in the same way drugs, alcohol, or a bdp does.

Its in your head. for some reason you are getting to nervous. Find the source of the problem and eliminate it.

listen to him

stop porn and fapping

men back in the days fVcked they didnt fapped as much or watch porn
 

PeasantPlayer

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They fapped probably just as much, just not with porn. And on the topic I keep relapse...I am addicted to sex I have to find a way. I will start on saturday morning
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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skinnyguy

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PeasantPlayer said:
They fapped probably just as much, just not with porn. And on the topic I keep relapse...I am addicted to sex I have to find a way. I will start on saturday morning
I relapsed too…no fap is so fvcking hard...
 

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Agree with most people above, stop watching porn! Masturbation is fine and actually it helps keep you sexual drive good/strong if not overdone.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
WARNING Sildenafil Citrate is a very potent chemical. This product is NOT for human use and can be harmful if ingested. This product is for research/laboratory use only. This product is NOT in a sterile solution and is NOT to be injected. This product should only be handled by licensed, qualified professionals. This product is not a drug, food, or cosmetic and should not be misbranded, misused or mislabeled as a drug, food or cosmetic.

What the hell is that stuff?
 

sylvester the cat

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this happened to me only once (when sober anyway).

I have no idea why. the girl i was trying to poke was smoking hot. 18, huge baps, nice as$. every time we went to do the deed it just would not perform.

to this day i do not know why this happened.
 

JohnChops

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lil hooligan said:
WARNING Sildenafil Citrate is a very potent chemical. This product is NOT for human use and can be harmful if ingested. This product is for research/laboratory use only. This product is NOT in a sterile solution and is NOT to be injected. This product should only be handled by licensed, qualified professionals. This product is not a drug, food, or cosmetic and should not be misbranded, misused or mislabeled as a drug, food or cosmetic.

What the hell is that stuff?
it is a prescription drug. research companies can sell it to anyone WITHOUT a prescription as long as they write "not for human consumption" so that if you fvck yourself up it is on you not them.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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