"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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RickHunt

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Hi. Don't know if this is the right place to post this? But hey.
When I engage in intimate physical contact with a girl (hugging or rubbing up against her) I get an erection easily. When I start getting closer to having sex, my boner subsides. I can be fingering her and rubbing her breasts but just cant get a boner at the time when I really need one. She can be jerking me off and I'm still flaccid (pretty embarrassing). As I mentioned, when the clothes are on I have no issue. Any tips or ways around this annoying problem? Is it that I need to get more comfortable with the girl first? Thanks.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dgwizdal

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c0ck pills from the gas station. Just your nerves - these wont fail you.
 

JohnChops

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its not low ****ing T, im 20 years old and this happened with my current GF. couldnt get hard. it was a mind game, its because you are nervous! just relax, your test is fine.
 

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Yep. I've had this issue when I was nervous/anxious with a new girl. When your clothes are on there is no expectation for you to perform (hence less anxiety). If you try to force yourself to get an erection on demand, it may backfire.

Next time, just try to keep yourself mentally calm & relaxed during foreplay. Just try to enjoy it without pressuring yourself (difficult I know). Do what you have to do to keep your hard on; whether its her or you doing the stroking, and/or taking your time. As soon as she's wet enough and you're at least hard enough to stick it in without folding, do so, and the sensation will keep you going. After you get comfortable with the girl then it won't be a problem. Good luck
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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VikingKing

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Stop fapping. Porn fvcks ur brain up in the same way drugs, alcohol, or a bdp does.

Its in your head. for some reason you are getting to nervous. Find the source of the problem and eliminate it.
 

Dgwizdal

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Dgwizdal said:
c0ck pills from the gas station. Just your nerves - these wont fail you.
Again - Do not hesitate to get libido/ d!ck pills. Also have her dirty talk and you c0ck will be rock hard. Stop beating off too
 

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noobolgy said:
Stop fapping. Porn fvcks ur brain up in the same way drugs, alcohol, or a bdp does.

Its in your head. for some reason you are getting to nervous. Find the source of the problem and eliminate it.
bdp = Big **** Pelican?
 

RagingBalls

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Bang her with your clothes on :D

just unzip your pants and attack the poon. Case solved :up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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VladPatton

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Do a reboot, man. Eliminate any sexual stimulus from your routine. No porn, no fap for let's say 5-7 days before you see her and you get nasty. It should work then. You'll be pretty charged up and ready to stick her good. Other than that, it is some psychological issue you need to address.
 

JohnChops

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all those porn is bad for you crap are for the guys who jerk it 10 times a day. doing it once or twice a week will have no ill effect on your sexual experience.
its not a silver bullet.
 

Jair213

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noobolgy said:
Stop fapping. Porn fvcks ur brain up in the same way drugs, alcohol, or a bdp does.

Its in your head. for some reason you are getting to nervous. Find the source of the problem and eliminate it.

listen to him

stop porn and fapping

men back in the days fVcked they didnt fapped as much or watch porn
 

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They fapped probably just as much, just not with porn. And on the topic I keep relapse...I am addicted to sex I have to find a way. I will start on saturday morning
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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skinnyguy

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PeasantPlayer said:
They fapped probably just as much, just not with porn. And on the topic I keep relapse...I am addicted to sex I have to find a way. I will start on saturday morning
I relapsed too…no fap is so fvcking hard...
 

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Agree with most people above, stop watching porn! Masturbation is fine and actually it helps keep you sexual drive good/strong if not overdone.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
WARNING Sildenafil Citrate is a very potent chemical. This product is NOT for human use and can be harmful if ingested. This product is for research/laboratory use only. This product is NOT in a sterile solution and is NOT to be injected. This product should only be handled by licensed, qualified professionals. This product is not a drug, food, or cosmetic and should not be misbranded, misused or mislabeled as a drug, food or cosmetic.

What the hell is that stuff?
 

sylvester the cat

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this happened to me only once (when sober anyway).

I have no idea why. the girl i was trying to poke was smoking hot. 18, huge baps, nice as$. every time we went to do the deed it just would not perform.

to this day i do not know why this happened.
 

JohnChops

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lil hooligan said:
WARNING Sildenafil Citrate is a very potent chemical. This product is NOT for human use and can be harmful if ingested. This product is for research/laboratory use only. This product is NOT in a sterile solution and is NOT to be injected. This product should only be handled by licensed, qualified professionals. This product is not a drug, food, or cosmetic and should not be misbranded, misused or mislabeled as a drug, food or cosmetic.

What the hell is that stuff?
it is a prescription drug. research companies can sell it to anyone WITHOUT a prescription as long as they write "not for human consumption" so that if you fvck yourself up it is on you not them.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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