"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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drummer

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So I lost my virginity to this girl a month or two ago. It didn't go the greatest, mostly cause I had lots of trouble getting hard... and I'm just 16. Now the issue is a little different though. I seriously just can not get it in her vagina. I'll try a few times and even if I finally do I last no time at all. Luckily for her I am good at fingering cause I just suck with sex. Anyone know anything that could help me out?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lube to get in. Staying power is a different issue. Try thinking of the least sexy thing in the world: your mom, dead puppies, school tomorrow, or whatever turns you off the most.
 

drummer

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Well the condoms I am using are already lubed and slippery as hell.

And no I haven't gotten her to give me a BJ before, would that just help me last longer?

I think part of the problem of getrting in is that my **** isn't really all the hard.. like its up but not rock solid...
 

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Hmmm, see now there may be the problem.

Maybe have her give you some HJ and BJ action for a while to harden things up.

If that doesn't work I would chalk it up to performance anxiety and if you do a search on that here I believe many posters have offered great advice of how to get through it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Ok thanks, I thought that performance stress might be it but just wanted to get a seconf opinion from those who oknow a bit more about the subject...
 
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