"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Von

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Hey guys,in a LTR or ONS.

I have issues of "duration" and "consistency" .

Kissing also makes me "wet" down there.

How can I improve my skills in bed?

How can I increase duration in bed?

How can I stop pre-ejaculation?

Thanks
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Look up kegels and reverse kegels
 

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When I was younger I had issues with PE. I learned to control it better with age. Break up what your doing. If you feel like you're going to c*um, stop and go down on her. pull out kiss her, etc. Pinching just below the penis head for a few seconds can work too: http://howtocurepe.com/the-squeeze-technique-free-premature-ejaculation-exercise.html

Lately, I've found (by accident) that a micro-dose of Viagara (10mg) keeps me really hard even after drinking and I can go more than an hour--seriously. I have some women that needed breaks. Looked it up and the delayed ejaculation is a side effect in only 1-3% of users. Me and the woman are just lucky, I guess, lol.
 
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Thanks for looking into this.

Duration and consistency were not issues in my marriage. Despite me gently expressing my unhappiness and asking him to sell a solution, I was ignored and my meds were ignored and it became the beginning of some resentment which eventually helped push the relationship to an end.

I'm sure that part of the reason the situation wasn't handled well was because of embarrassment and he didn't have a group of friends he felt comfortable reaching out to, and for some reason he wouldn't talk to his doctor about it either.

Good on you for seeking advice and help
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm a little unclear, may I ask exactly what is problem was?
His main issue was he was a 2 pump chump. He didn't start out that way.

He tried to blame me "oh, your noises just turned me on too much" and/or "from the way you were moaning, I thought you orgasmed" being a reasonable person I then asked him "okay then, before you come you need to check with me, see where I am at" after that it became clear it was his problem, he just couldn't hold back.

I just gently talked to him about it and asked him to look into things that could help him. He said he would and he didn't.

I asked him to get Viagra. he eventually made the appointment and saw the doctor and then came home and yelled at me because he had to get a rectal exam.

Even when he got the Viagra and I would suggest to him that maybe it was time to have some fun he wouldn't take the Viagra until just before he hopped into bed naked. and without enough time for the Viagra to work he would still be a two-pump chump.

The entirety of the scenario was aggravating. It took him over a year to get the Viagra and during that year I was just so resentful that he wasn't being a man and handling the situation

Planning was never his strong suit, still isn't
 

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Give her more foreplay than you let her give you. My girlfriend gives back just as much, it takes less than a minute when I actually start penetrating. She doesn't mind because I made her orgasm already, but if I haven't then I'll rather fvck her than let her warm me up more.

I think it helps to just be open and communicate what you need to last longer. It's awkward to cvm early and you haven't talked about it, at least I think so.
 

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His main issue was he was a 2 pump chump.
I actually burst out laughing when I read this. Smh, poor girl...

I asked him to get Viagra. he eventually made the appointment and saw the doctor and then came home and yelled at me because he had to get a rectal exam.
Another (bigger) laughter outburst, smh. WTF, my doc never did this for me just to get a V Rx. Probably the worst 10 seconds of his life that year, lol.

He wouldn't have even needed the V, probably. Lot's a man can do to mitigate PE.
 
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